Generosity, Grace and Glory: Transformation 2016 Predictions


2016 Vedic Philosophical Prediction

By Maharani Rutan©


On Christmas Eve Day I decided to write my predictions for 2016. I could not help but to ponder the sadness of 2015. The great legions that passed away that that made differences in the lives of so many. From the co-founder of North Face (Douglas Tompkins) who kept us warm in the cold weather, to the designer of the Bat-mobile which everyone wanted (George Barris). Not to mention Former Senator Fred Thompson, perhaps better known as the District Attorney in Law and Order. We also saw the passing of Jackie Collins who kept most women’s romance alive in their hearts through her wonderful novels, Bobbie Kristina Brown – the only legacy of Whitney Houston who could have shimmered the world, Omar Sharif a heartthrob of the 60’s, Nicholas Winton who saved 650 Jewish children during the holocaust, and Dick Van Patten who played the father in the show 8 is enough.


Some of the most heartfelt deaths of this past year included B.B King (musician), Percy Slege (Musician), adored Leonard Nimoy (aka Mr. Spock in Star Trek), Zsa Zsa Gabor(actress), then there were those that the heavens set the stage. From Afghanistan, Africa, France, India, Australia, U.K, Japan and much more. Some of these deaths could have been prevented while others were caused by natural disasters. But whatever the case, and no matter what the circumstances, we cried many tears, we mourned, we feared, but most of all, we live daily to protect our family, friends, and country.

We will soon begin 2016 with many uncertainties, including where the future of one of the most powerful nations falls as it is placed into the hands of its political process. Thus we have plenty to think about and Mercury retrograde from 2015 going into 2016 will make sure that we think about how our communication and telecommunication is reliant upon the messages being delivered. At the same time Jupiter will also retrograde in Virgo.


Last fall Jupiter entered Virgo which brought or rather, is still bringing, opportunities to Virgos; but Virgo should not have wasted time. They should have been on the move: investing, looking, planning, organizing, networking, but most of all building as time is of an essence (read about it here). However, January 5, 2016, this magnificent planet of luck and fortune will be moving retrograde. There is an old saying, everything should be in moderation otherwise we may become ill. Meaning that if you love sugar and eat too much of it then there is a probability that you may become a diabetic and you may never have candy again. Therefore, when Jupiter begins to go retrograde in Virgo, all earth signs (Capricorn, Taurus and Virgo) will be going through introspection in regards to understanding how to improve themselves so that they are able to handle more critical issues in their lives when Jupiter goes direct. The worst thing one can do around this time is to get scared because life slows down as you know it. Therefore, Capricorn and Virgo will have a double slow down whammy in January and February of 2016. However, it may last a little longer for Virgos as Jupiter stays retrograde until May 2016.


On January 03, 2016 Mars will enter Scorpio which could be good or bad as it means that everything in life as we see it may be all black or white with nothing in between. But it is about challenges, making profound changes, keeping things a secret, and testing our limits. Within two weeks or so Venus will enter Capricorn, and therefore, while their luck of Career and life as they knew it slows down, perhaps their luck in love and all things such as art and beauty will be at their best. Thus Capricorn may still be a little dissimulated and Scorpios may go through some through some transformations.

As Valentine’s Day gets a little closer and Mercury retrograde starts to move direct, we will feel some relief. However, Venus also moves from worrisome Capricorn and into friendly Aquarius. The residue of Mercury still remains however, so watch out for old lovers returning. I wish I could say that instantly the phase will be over but the light at the end of the tunnel will not be bright until the end of February when we finally get some relief, not for long though. Brace yourself! And hold on tight as the spring brings us some bumps and bruises along the way, as it did spring of 2015.


As tough as it was for us in 2015, the eclipses were not as bad as they will be in 2016. In 2015 we had 4 eclipse, in 2016 we will have 5. A solar and lunar eclipse in the spring of 2016 and Lunar-Solar-Lunar eclipses in the fall of 2016. In spring 2015, our first solar eclipse magnified openings with the Pisces/Aries eclipse on March 20 (Read about it here), followed by the Libra/Aries eclipse on April 4 (read about it here).


No, I have not forgotten, as always it appears that super moons seem to follow the eclipse, or vice versa; we will have six super moons in 2016, just like 2015. Instead of all of the new moons being in the beginning of the year, they will be during the eclipses or little after.


Our first new super moon will cover the entire sun disk and form a total solar eclipse. This eclipse will focus on early born Pisces’ who will now open their eyes with the first total solar eclipse on March 08, 2016, and Libras who will now end their last eclipse for a while with the Libra/Aries eclipse on March 23, 2016. Fortunately for Libras, they will not be affected by eclipses now for quite some time, but that will not stop them from being affected by other aspects. These eclipses will magnify changes for both Pisces and Libra’s for 6 months, setting the stage for their own transformation and I would not be surprised if all those that have planets in in mutable or cardinal signs are affected by these eclipses. Even though the eclipses are transforming Pisces, Venus will grace them by entering their sign, at least until April 05, 2015, while Mars likes things to be fair in Sagittarius and wants the truth. Additionally, by now Saturn is going retrograde and perhaps Sagittarius’ can at least breathe for a little while, at least until August when Saturn goes direct again.


Finally, the merry-go-round begins to slow down and we are able to get off. However, while we are huffing and puffing while holding on to the railing, the universe looks down and says, “oh you need some rest? No problem! I will give you rest.” He puts his whistle in his mouth and blows and says, loudly ‘HEY! MERCURY! THESE HUMANS ARE TIRED!” Mercury smiles, and rubs his hands and says, “oh goody!” Even if our life is about to slow down this does not mean the cosmos slows down. Our second super new moon will be on April 07. One week later, on April 12-14, Mercury retrograde will take the second earth sign hostage. First, he took Capricorn, next is Taurus which means that not only are Taurus’ going to be affected, but all earth signs. I know Capricorn, its hell, I know. Oh, Virgo too. And let’s not forget Gemini, Pisces, and Sagittarius. Oh, why not by default, all those associated too. While our spring quickly begins to move to summer our heads are now between our legs and we are in a fetal position.may1As earth signs bask in the heat in May, the third super new moon will enter our atmosphere on May 06, 2016. Additionally, a few days later, the splendor of Jupiter moves direct in Virgo at the beginning of May once again. But, by association all earth signs will shine bright with kisses and splendor in the glory of prosperity and abundance until September 2016. By the time Mercury retrograde moves into the ghost period. Gemini’s will be whistling as Venus moves into their signs and summer love will bring their love life a little sparkle. However, when Mars had gone retrograde in Scorpio in April, Scorpios and its opposite Aries, people became, and will continue to become very irritable. This anger may disturb the harmony for many people, and possibly even what they do for a living. While Earth signs are confused, Air signs may love the summer romance, while Water and Fire signs may be creating some steam. I call this period simply, a mixed bag of tricks. May will, however, also bring our last Blue moon until 2019; be on the lookout as it is going to be marvelous.


Finally, in June and July the universe will give us the break we all need. In June, Venus will enter Cancer and it’s time for Cancerians to spread the love and turn the torch over to his brother Leo. Family and love is always where Leo’s enjoy love to be. Now everyone can finally enjoy their summer until we are glued to our television, or taking a nice vacation to Rio, for the summer Olympics. Or are we preparing for the next eclipse, or the next full moon? No matter what it is, take your favorite Ice tea, put a lounge chair in the water, put on your John Belushi glasses and float. This is exactly what Pisces, and those with Pisces in their charts, will do starting in June when Neptune goes retrograde again. Ok, you may even feel a bit tipsy.

As the summer gets hotter Mars will enter Sagittarius in early August which will affect all fire signs. Sagittarius’ love to have fun but this time they will get what they want, and if they don’t they won’t hang round for long. Just a few days after Mars enters Sagittarius, Venus enters Virgo (August 04, 2016) where Virgos are sexy, shining, and making everything so sweet. With Jupiter and Venus in Virgo I wonder how many followers beautiful Virgos will have; they will shine bright and have what they need. But if you asked me I think the Olympic committee should have called me before they set the date for the Olympics in Rio. As we are glued to the television on August 5, 2015, the Mercury retrograde ghost period will begin to start making things quite difficult for earth signs, but this time he is holding Virgos hostage. Hence, Virgos will not mind, they will shine quite pretty. As for the rest of us, well, all other earth signs and mutable signs may have a slightly tough time, especially Sagittarius. Saturn, a planet of difficult lessons, finally moves direct in the second week so tough lessons are already on their way for Sagittarius.


Moving into mid-August, transformation for Aquarius people now begins with their first partial lunar eclipse. These are questions that arose from the eclipse of August 7, 1998 combined with those from the eclipse on August 5, 2009. All those with Aquarius and Air signs in their charts, and fixed signs, will be affected by this eclipse and all unfinished business must be taken care of now. But hold on tight, really tight, we are not finished yet! As we end August, Mercury is still retrograding. The summer Olympics are now over, we just passed an Aquarius Eclipse on August 18, 2016, and we are now ready to hide under the blanket. It’s like the Eagles song Hotel California, “you can check out any time you like but you can never leave.”


There is a whole lot of shaken’ going on beginning on September 1, 2016; this is the second Virgo/Pisces eclipse, the first being in 2015. You are now being questioned about things from 2006. Yes Virgo, you will be affect by one more eclipse two weeks later, then you are done for 5 to 6 years. Yes, Venus has left your sign by September and you have now given the torch to Libra where it is at home. You will also hand over the torch of Jupiter to Libra as it’s their turn to hold on to it for a little while because too much of a good thing is never good. I hope you used your time well as Jupiter will not be back in your sign until 2025 in the western astrology but guess what… in the eastern astrology it’s about to enter your Jupiter in September so maybe, just maybe, you hit the lotto with a double whammy? Maybe.

If you sit for too long to have a drink of water that is way too long on September 16, 2015. We will have another eclipse, yes you got it, and that makes 5 eclipse in 2016. This one is in Pisces therefore it will be considered Pisces/Virgo eclipse. Yes, I promised you Virgo, it is the last eclipse and it is. Pisces however, you do have one more in 2017 and you are done as well. This is also asking about your 2006 lessons. A few days later Venus will enter Scorpio and some things will be hidden. Mars will also enter Capricorn and here we go again – worries galore. But at least for Capricorn, things will look much clearer when planet rebirth goes direct.


I am looking at, and writing all of this, and I am thinking we need a break in October. Do you feel it coming? By now we are in our ghost period of Mercury retrograde. There needs to be some deep concentration on the Presidency of United States and the people cannot do this when “stop-go” continues to happen. So now the slowdowns are gone for the year. I think. The eclipses are finished. Jupiter is in Libra and Saturn is still in Sagittarius until next year. Uranus will retro and direct in Aries for a while. Neptune will be in Pisces for a while, Pluto will remain in Capricorn for a while, and Chiron in Pisces. So what’s left?


Ahhh… Super moon! The first super moon will be on October 16, 2016, which will also be a full moon in Aries. As I always say, if you find full moons are bad, a super moon is worse. But something very phenomenal is also occurring just 5 days before the presidential election, which is the black moon on October 30, 2017. The black moon is also a new moon in Scorpio; it a sign of death, rebirth, and secrets; hmm… sounds very mysterious. No, I am not going to predict who will President.


By the beginning of November we now have a new ruler of the most powerful nation in the world. Mars is in friendly Aquarius yet perhaps friends may be a little demanding of us. Venus, meanwhile, is in worried Capricorn. Finally, our second and the brightest super moon occurs on November 14, 2016; which so happens to be in Taurus. Tsk tsk, a bit stubborn; and to think, in 10 more days we will have Thanksgiving. Are we going to feel as though we wonder where the year went, or are we going to remember the year as thank God it is over? Except for the uncertainty of the nation, November is not so bad. And I promise, the year ends just like it began.


December 1, 2016, Mercury will enter the ghost period with Mercury in Sagittarius causing intensity around Christmas (something look familiar?). Our third and final super moon occurs on December 14, 2016 (Full moon in Gemini). Ending the year with Venus in Fun Aquarius, Mars in Pisces, Jupiter in Libra, we can now exhale. Virgo’s no more eclipse as promised.


So what will we learn in 2016? We will learn more about money; how we spend and how we should spend. We will learn about value of relationships. We will learn about family. Most of all, we encounter important lessons of work in progress as 2017 through 2018 is a transformative period of spiritual transitions for many.

Please note these are general predictions not to be noted as western astrology predictions, if you are looking for a western astrologer that can look at your personal chart please see my link here or contact my recommended astrologer Leslie hale here.

Wishing you the best of 2016 and may your transformation be delightful and spiritual looking forwards to talking with you on Facebook and look for my blogs of 2017.


Maharani Rutan©

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The Abyss: Slow motion. Eight days to 2016 or eight very long weeks in 2016


Mercury Retrograde 2015/2016

December 19, 2015 -January 4, 2016

January 5- 25, 2016

January 26-February 16, 2016

By Maharani Rutan©

So we began the year with a full moon and we end the year with a full moon. But one thing for sure, the universe wants us now to really take the time to think about everything that just happened in 2015. Digest our independence, the freedom we take for granted, including conflicts on a political, personal, and professional front. With the conflicts, we not only suffer on an emotional level but they will resonate to our nerves and muscles when we feel the pressure.

The trickster is back! The ghost period of Mercury retrograde has already begun in Capricorn/Sagittarius on December 19, 2015 at approximately 6am EST at 14 degrees. The intensification of Mercury will be at its strongest January 5, 2016 when it begins its journey at 1 degree in Aquarius. Mercury then begins to station direct on 25 of January again at 14 degrees in Capricorn and rests back to 1 degree Aquarius on 16th of February 2016. However, many will still feel the effects of Mercury through its ghost period until February 19, 2016 and until it finally stations direct on the February 28, 2016.


Many Vedic philosophies consider that a planet which retrogrades initiates its period about 2 to 3 weeks before retrograde position. This is especially true in the Vedic comprehension of how to plan for the obstacles for tomorrow and you will regress any issues. Therefore, I would consider that many of you may start to see the effects as early as the 19th of December, 2015. This phase may be considered an outline of what is yet to come.

This Mercury will take everyone hostage. By default, Gemini’s ruler is Mercury and thus by association, all mutable signs (Virgo, Pisces, Gemini and Sagittarius) are always affected. The year-end Mercury is a lot like the beginning of 2015 when we began the year with Mercury in Aquarius. Therefore, all air signs will be affected once again (Gemini, Libra and Aquarius), and by association, this means all fixed signs will be affected (Scorpio, Leo, Aquarius and Taurus) until mid-January. As we move into the more volatile energy between January 1 through 31, Capricorns will get whacked and, of course, by association so will the cardinal signs (Cancer, Aries, Libra and Capricorn). So if you ask me, no one will really survive this retrograde. But like I always say… It’s in the attitude folks.


When Mercury is retrograde, everyone’s judgment is more reflective and we tend to think about matters and worries that relate to the sign involved. With Mercury retrograde in Aquarius and then into Capricorn, people with this sign prominent in their charts will be particularly prone to such introspection. There is little choice but to reconsider our individual opinions and thoughts about being.

There is, however, a chance to grow and understand our own self-image. When Mercury is retrograding in the signs of Aquarius it creates an emotional and zealous focus on self-autonomy and love with freedom. People’s approaches may change and may be motivated to be very tenacious and hypercritical. The big temptation will be to pressure people into sharing the same mind-set.

The last time this transit was like this was during the winter of 2008-2009 when the energy was just as intense. Last year we had series of retrogrades which affected air signs; this year though, air signs will be affected by association and the intensity will not rise to what it was in at the end of 2014/beginning of 2015. The difference is that this time it involves everyone. In 2016, Mercury is beginning its movements in earth signs as it ends the air sign period and moves into earth.

As this Mercury sets his foot on more earthy stages the focal point will be earth signs and the affects over introspection of these signs. Mercury in Capricorn produces an ability that is conservative, organized, strong-minded, practical, insightful, stable, and well prepared. During this period many of you may become stern and lack laughter or humor at times. This is because acceptance is being forced into learning that is bestowed upon monetary security, our placement in society, or work principles.

Love affairs will be unpredictable and inconsistent due to egocentric approaches. All areas of communication are alarming, especially matters relating to relatives, business, and particularly anyone who is doing home business, travel, and real estate sales or purchases. Documents could easily go astray. Be sure to carry a journal and refer to it regularly. Gossip regarding associates, partners, and colleagues should be discounted or taken with a grain of salt; especially if sex or money is involved. The plot will coagulate with overtones which lead up to February 28, 2016, which is when Mercury begins to move forward.

There is little choice but to re-examine our individual image and attitude about endurance. When Mercury is retrograding in the signs of Gemini it creates a lucid and communicative motivation and causes us to climb into something new and exceptional. You may even want to get away to a place that you have never visited before. The information that is received by the cosmos during the retrograde period is coming at you to re-examine your past. Thus, history may disturb you or give you better insight into your psyche which will be based upon the truth. This may cause you to return because of fear that may confine or cause you to dread the future or acceptance of change. These tendency will to be prone to confusion, indecision, fickle mindedness, and frustrations. Often times there are predispositions that you must do whatever you can not to become hateful towards criticism and not take it personally.mercaq210015This period can also ruin any business dealings, legal issues, and especially matters of interactions which may be blocked in some way. Writers also may have a block of some kind; it is time for a break if you can.

Recognize that Mercury, when it comes to romance, is about the desires of both people. Since relationships are based upon needs of two there may be a choice between past relationships and the present. This will be a time where people from the past may return and it may be during this time where have to choose if you want to move forward in the relationship or re-consider having a new beginning in your life. Any incomplete business from the past will be re-examined at this time. The energy of Mercury gives you the chance to know exactly what you are doing, especially when considering whether to close, or re-open, doors. Many relationships that do not have a firm foundation could break up during Mercury retrograde because of miscommunication or through re-examination.


If there is a needed desire to keep a relationship concrete, then it is advisable to consider every relationship with kid gloves, because it is bound end. Additionally if there are any endings, the communication may not straighten out until March 1, 2016; waiting too long may be subjected to “too little too late”. However, relationships are not the only subject of concern during this retrograde period.

Communications of all sorts, whether they be personal, business, legal, political, or even governmental, will have their issues. Due to distributed energies and obstructions, there is an overall theme of arguments, delays, minor mistakes, delayed communications, getting lost, missed appointments, mechanical outage, computer issues, and most of all, accidents.

Planets are never actually retrograde or stationary, they just seem that way due to this visual false impression. Retrograde periods are often difficult since human nature does not want to go back but to only move forward, hence cannot often grip change. Each planet retrogrades, except the Sun and Moon. Mercury, much like the winged messenger of the gods, comes in on feather-light wings and commands us to communicate. Communication, understanding, and consciousness are all within Mercury’s sphere, as are reason and analysis, our manner of philosophy, and how we create and express our thought progression.

In general, Mercury rules thinking and understanding, indulgence, all means of information distribution, trade, and transport. Additionally, Mercury rules people who work in these areas; especially people who work with their minds or intellect such as writers and orators, commentators and columnists, scandal and spin doctors. Mercury retrograde gives rise to personal misinterpretation; faulty, disrupted, or delayed communications, talks and trade, glitches and breakdown of phones, computers, cars, buses, and trains. These problems usually arise because some critical piece of information was lost or wrong. When Mercury is retrograde, everyone’s thinking is more meditative and we tend to think about topics and concerns that relate to the sign involved. Artistic predispositions including crafts, music, art, or design tend to be blocked by conditions beyond one’s control. Legal matters will proceed bit by bit and unpredictable barriers tend to appear.


The good things to do when Mercury is Retrograde: envision, reading, adjust the book/poem/song/essay you’ve been writing, clean house, talk to your pet, listen to music, paint, go for a walk, learn yoga, exercise, and most of all catch up on sleep! Mercury is a very lethargic moving planet affecting almost every sign with no discrimination. It is my suggestion that you buy a yellow candle and carve your name through to the wick. Smear the candle with Inspiration oil or Eucalyptus oil and chant the Psalm 70 every single night. This period will last for 6 weeks (2 weeks prior, 2 weeks retrograde, and 2 weeks moving) and it will be hard on all of us.

These minor suggestions will allow friendly interactions as well as compassion in circumstances. You may also choose to recite a mantra every morning until February 28, 2016. Remember that with all functions of psalms and mantras achieving the desired consequences is dependent upon the quality of intention. Also, when it comes to finding satisfying relationships, it is of the greatest importance to begin with a clear perceptive of what your goal should be.

The mantras can be hard to voice for many but are a powerful foundation of energy. The mantra for Mercury energy is:


“Om Budhaya Namaha”

(Om Bood-han-yah Nahm-ah-ha)

“Om and salutations to Buddha, presiding spirit of planet mercury”

This should be recited December 19, 2015 through February 28, 2016


This mantra is used to achieve mental rationality, shun and conquer confusion, and keep welcoming interactions flowing.

It is my suggestion that you re-visit areas of your life that need the utmost attention, which is all about you. In this life, even though people in our lives do play a great role, we must take into consideration how we act towards them. We must also take into consideration if our actions, or reactions, create unnecessary conflicts. All humans are given an ego and through our egos we can either create a sublime bliss in our relationship, or create chaos.

It is my suggestion to set up a timing reading with me or reach out to Leslie Hale who can best help you understand how this retrograde planet will affect you. Remember I am NOT an astrologer, however in the Vedic philosophies we do consider astrological inferences does create a certain characteristic attitude or behavior towards conflicts that interfere in sublime bliss.

Wishing you a joyful holiday… look for my 2016 predictions soon…


Maharani Rutan©

Copyright © 2015 www.

Ending 2015 with your eyes wide open: Final Full moon 2015

Full Moon in Cancer

December 25, 2015

By Maharani Rutan©

We began 2015 with our eyes wide open, with a full moon at 14 degrees in Cancer (read about it here) and now, we end the year with our last full moon in Cancer; still with our eyes open at 3 degrees in Cancer.

The internet has been blasted by the recurrences of the full moon on Christmas Day. Surely, we have many full moons on Christmas Day/Eve with the last one on December 24, 2007 at 2 degrees in Cancer, and previously on December 26, 2004 but at the midnight hour it was pretty lit at 5 degrees in Cancer. This year, it will be on December 25th 6:12am EST, 3:12 PST.


However, I have stated in the last three to four blogs that history repeats itself, so without looking can you guess to what degree and what date the next full moon will fall on Christmas Day and what year? The math is quite simple. We did not have a full moon on Christmas Day between 2000 and 2003 which means that between the last one (2004) and the most current (2015) is the difference of 11 years. Therefore, the next full moon will be in 2026 and because history repeats itself it has to go back to the degree it was prior to 2015 this means it will be on December 24, 2026 at 2 degrees in Cancer (I could be wrong as I am not an astrologer nor a mathematician or a scientist but it’s worth a good guess).

Even though this full moon will fascinate many, depending upon which hemisphere one resides, the names of the moon are associated with the hemisphere. In the north they name the full moon in December as the Long night moon or actually, the cold moon because of the cold conditions and the night seems to be so long because the sun never seems to come up. In the south it is called a Rose moon as the hue of the warm and cold air form a reddish tint to the moon.


Often it has been rumored that during the full moon the howling of wolfs will trigger some unimaginable supernatural activities in the atmosphere such as natural disasters, like rain and earthquakes, without warning. But, just as our air brings her wrath onto our earth, human lives will dive into the depths of their own emotions. Cancer moon often brings a lot of water, snow, and surging rain which could cause devastation to hills and mountains. It could also cause destruction to our own emotions.

The Full moon gives a gesture for us to appreciate the significance and purpose given to us to discover what it means to live with a purpose. It is as influential as everything the moon stands for. This moon rules areas of people, visions, and karmic memories. Domestic issues will disturb most of us during the full moon in Cancer.


Sentimentality and past memoirs will draw us to people from our past. These feelings exist on a karmic level which allows us the chance to go backwards and save things and people from our past. In many cases this involves those we believed we had let go, or perhaps, we may not have let go of them when it was called for. Often times it was regretful words or actions which separated us from them, and now all it takes is a little effort, modesty, and being humble to make the heart heal and be right again. It is time to open to your feeling; perhaps very deep ones that we may have kept concealed and silent for a long time; to apologize, if need be, and in general, be more kind and nonjudgmental.

After the planets have choked many of us with the Uranus/Saturn/Pluto/Mars energy, we can finally welcome the Winter Solstice and a day after, this moon. We can sing the “Shake it off” song. But please don’t try to ski if you don’t know how. If you are a Sagittarius or have any houses in Sagittarius you might do that. I’d hate to see you break bones while your Cancerian friend sits there and laughs at you making a fool of yourself.


A full moon in Cancer is also a compulsive time for many. This is especially true for those who have difficulty connecting with people as it could cause binges like drinking, chocolate, Ice cream, or even sexual liaisons, all of which will be regretted later. It will be a bad hangover which may take months to get over.

But where there is ruin there will be new development. The full moon always brings closure in order to bring to us a better tomorrow. The hills of the new, and new beginnings, will bring with them central changes which have been dreaded for so long. These worries manifest in the form of ambiguities and it is these mysteries that have also held us back for so long.


This full moon will emphasize how confident we are in the emotions that are attached to our communication, how much we share, and how much we relate to others. The full moon can be a luminous time; however, it all depends upon our moderation of the energy.

The cancer full moon is also very special as the energy will allow freedom from old wounds which may have caused cruel resentments and the powerlessness to forgive and move past vital things. The energy of this moon will give the healing required to absolve, thus freeing one’s self from emotional constipation. To only imagine a world without chains or to revert the energy back into the self so that the energy can be placed somewhere else which results in beautiful things of the future.

This moon allows that balance and to appreciate that perhaps it is not our discomfort to hold on to, but it’s the opinions of our environment that make you feel the way you do. Whether it be people or places, the voices have caused a lot of pain and unreasonable decisions based upon other people’s values and norms, not of your own.

Brace yourself though! Letting go of harmful energy is not always easy as it has been consistent for so long. Imagine for a moment an addict goes cold turkey one day from something he or she has been using for many years. Similar to that, love can be just as addictive if it makes us feel good. Therefore, letting go will cause many to be moody and unreasonable. Give yourself time to heal and others as well. Trust your intuition.

Open your mind and heart wider than ever before. If you need to cry, then cry. Let it all go. Your heart and mind, and especially psyche, will let you know that it is ok to do so and that the tears are not of pain but of love. Show your love to someone with the kindest spoken words and the hurt will diminish through compassion. However, if there is indecision or bitterness then the spoken words will cut like a knife, deeper than the depths of any soul.

The first step of letting go is to physically do it. Cancers love to be cared for and love their homes. The force of this moon will give the energy needed to clean the home of clutter, finish the projects which were not finished, and bring the beauty and light of the full moon into the home. Through all this electricity in the air don’t forget to go into your shell too from time to time. Cancers love their solitude, this is how they love themselves and are accepting of others. Through the separation there will be answers to understanding the past and plant the seeds of tomorrow. Cleaning of the body, mind, spirit, and the physical world will lay a solid foundation for tomorrow. However, Cancerians know that tomorrow cannot happen overnight; it is going to have to happen one day at a time.


Significance of this moon is not just about emotions but it is also about closeness. Cancer is a sign of fostering and the love of a mother for her son or daughter. It’s a karmic connection, a sacrifice, and an allegiance to safeguard the family. The need to protect may be so strong that there may be predispositions to bring out indulgences such as eating, drinking, and spending too much. It is a tall order to release feelings and, at the same time, try to understand them. A birthmother may play an important role in one’s life while trying to appreciate the deep meaning of love mixed with discipline. Memories of positive childhood experiences will create imaginative responses, thus triggering the psychic energy which will be directly connected to the birth mother. The feelings may be very clingy and obstinate but the need to follow them is more gratifying.

The moon in Cancer brings encouragement, passions, compassion, resourcefulness, and sentimental issues in our lives. The Watery Cancer Moon brings up memories of childhood, warm motherly arms, and tender touches for loved ones. Our hearts swirl in a sea of ancient imagery…. watch out for crabbiness!


There may be a lot of sensitive emotions and a need to hide under a shell, for some time, in seclusion. Defending ones tradition and family maybe be number one on everyone’s agenda. Although dispositions may be changeable, people may often be very nurturing and caring. Elderly people may be looking for protection and nurturing. Care needs to be taken to avoid hurting the feelings of others as well as having your own feelings hurt.

Since Cancer is ruled by the Moon, lunar influences are strongest and most easily expressed when focused through this sign. The moon greatly influences personality, the subconscious, and the emotions which mold instinctual behavior. When the Moon is in Cancer it is a time of tense emotions and great sensitivity with people responding to life through emotions rather than reason. During this very vulnerable period be cautious not to emotionally wound others or allow yourself to be wounded. Generally, people will be passive, easy-going, sentimental, loving, and nurturing. Unfortunately, this motherly expression of caring is often expressed with food and it is easy to overeat. Cancer is a nurturing sign and the most fertile sign of the zodiac. With the moon in Cancer, it is a good time for creating life and for growth. Don’t be surprised if you find some news about a new baby or give birth; it could also be weddings and reunions. It is all about families and children.

The moon in Cancer represents Fostering, Sensitive, Delicate, Creative, and Romantic. It is my suggestion that you purchase a pink candle and carve your name, and the name of your loved one, through to the wick. Anoint the candle with lavender oil, or inspiration oil, and chant Psalm 70. You may also choose to recite a mantra every morning until the next moon cycle.

Remember that with all applications of psalms and mantras achieving the desired result is dependent upon the quality of intention, and when it comes to finding a satisfying relationship with another person, it is of the greatest importance to begin with a clear understanding of what your goal should be. The mantras can be hard to pronounce for many but are a powerful source of energy. The mantra for Cancer moon is:


“Om Shrim Chandrakia Namaha”

Om Shreem Chan dra kia nahm – ah- ha)

Om, and salutation to the creative abundance that is the very form of the universe.


This Mantra opens the universal forces in your life and allows the righteous changes to occur. With every moon cycle, remember to cross out the old affirmation, even if there is the slightest change, and create new ones. The perfect number for aspiration is 10. This means to list 10 aspirations and recite them every night until the next moon cycle. Remember, to make the affirmations begin with “I feel the resolute. I protect, save, nourish, and assimilate all of life’s emotions; I have a desire to connect to the source of subconscious and be reserved, quite, and love without conditions.”

Please note that I am not an astrologer nor do I claim to be. These are general tendencies; not necessary or exact to every recipient. However, it gives a basic glimpse of what to expect during the lunar cycle. To understand what to expect in your particular situation, you might want to consult with an astrologer who can help you fill in the voids of confusion. You can find them at recommend astrological link here


Vedic readings are unique in many senses; where it encompasses the phases of the moon and creates a reading which is based upon actions and reactions to the more mundane parts of our lives which we can control. This control is triggered through actions and reactions which create a symphony of destiny, karma, dharma, and spiritual transits which often confuse us. Our lives are not just about looking at the past; they also encompass the present so we can choose to build a future of our liking. A Vedic reading embraces those utilities and helps you create that picture perfect world through spiritual messages.

I hope that this full moon brings you the sublime transits you have asked for and the healing energies filling your heart with love and inspirations.


I wish you and yours a very happy and healthy holiday season. Stay tuned for my 2016 predictions and keep warm.

Maharani Rutan©


Copyright © 2015 www.

Disoriented Dialog and Disagreements : Full Moon in Gemini November 2015


Full Moon in Gemini

November 25, 2015

By Maharani Rutan©

The eclipses are now behind us, some of the eastern holidays are behind us, and Thanksgiving is in a few days. Which means that one month from day will be Christmas and shortly after we can say goodbye to 2015 and hello to 2016. So much has happened and so much is yet to happen; we have cried, laughed, been amazed, shook our heads, and have put on our rosy colored glasses for so long – all of which are now coming off.

On November 25, 2015 at 5:44pm EST and 2:44 PST we will have another amazing illumination in our sky with the Sagittarius/Gemini full moon. For all those born November 19-25, certainly you will be affected and do not be surprised if something ends in your life. In addition, those that have mutable signs anywhere in their chart (Gemini, Pisces, Sagittarius, and Virgo) will also be affected; the severity depends upon how much Gemini or Sagittarius is magnifying the chart. At 3 degrees it will be impacting early born Sagittarius and I am most certain this degree has not been redundant, not at least in the 21st century, and unfortunately it won’t be this degree until 2022.


But don’t expect all to be beautiful and somber, as Saturn will square Neptune and what this means is many people will get the reality check of their lifetime. Some of us, especially people who have a lot Pisces in their chart, have now cleaned the fog from their glasses and things are looking much clearer. Dreams are more real and acquiring information from external resources is even better. For many of us, travel will pose no problem on the full moon.

However, the full moon has been known to cause some weather issues such as snow, rain, sleet, and water surges. If you give yourself extra time and watch the weather prior to your travel then there should be no issue


Mystery of mysteries, the Moon calls the daydreaming soul to awaken and roam in lands beyond the coherent, the sensible, and the cosmological daylight self… It is time to foldaway in the dreamtime, heeding to your perception, pursuing solutions in ancient reminiscences profound within your cataleptic… Let go of your grip on the routine now; don’t try to have it all make sense… Keep a dream journal and open to moon whispers… Work with divination, scurrying and other forms of magic that let the mind float free… It is time to be outrageous, and worship the ever-changing beauty of the night…

When the Moon is full the gravitational pull between the Moon, on one side of the earth, and the Sun on the other creates great distress on our own bodily water levels, as well as the earth’s. High objectivity, clear mindedness, and special awareness of needs, and the needs of others, may be more important now. It may not be noticeable (depending on how powerful the Moon is in a Astrological chart), but there is no doubt that this energy creates an inner pull, or fullness – and may help us to connect psychically with others.


Everything becomes purer and more penetrating under the light of the Full Moon – emotions and individuality can become quite extravagant, and we may have more consciousness and focus on relationships. There is a significant amount of energy by the light of the Moon creating more incandescent dreams.

Bleeding and hemorrhaging are more likely during a Full Moon, so take care. This is the time to Harvest, Pray and be Thankful, and to work on fertility and prosperity. Love and Romance go wild under a Full Moon, especially around midnight.


While the moon is in the dualistic sign Gemini, people may never make up their minds. With the Gemini ease of seeing both sides of everything we feel more flexible, unpredictable, and conversational. It is a good time to write, take care of tasks that resemble mathematical puzzles, make speeches, or just let ideas fly through the clouds. Intellectual pursuits and mind games may become more inclined to rationalize emotions.But as I had stated earlier, some of our rosy colored glasses are now coming off which means that our visions and principles are now being put on trial.  This type of questioning will go back and forth for most of 2016 so get used to it.  Feeling financially restricted could also block the dreams and desires and could cause desperation.

Feelings could switch on and off, however the ability to see various aspects of a situation will be a plus and being able to adjust to others even better. This could make you appear fickle or two-sided, but it is really the sign of open mindedness. Friendly communication will be fostered.  However, with the Saturn/Neptune and the full moon squaring it, there is vital awakening where old feelings will now come out and a crossroads of relationships and self-goals, or career paths, could cause strains on a relationship or it could naturally break up.

The Gemini moon arouses curiosity. Stimulating concepts seem frequent, like doors opening up to reveal other doors. Now is the time to make acquaintances, perhaps via e-mail or telephone. Explore your garden, learn from it, but don’t plant. The Moon in Gemini also brings a time of communication and changeability. People may feel very conversational and probing. This is a time to chase scholarly interests and to take care of communications, both verbal and written.

Like the Twins that symbolize Gemini, people may be able to see both sides of a problem, but they may also be indecisive and fidgety, unable to make up their minds. Caution needs to be taken to avoid saying something in haste that will be mourned later.

It is my suggestion to bring out those aspiration papers again and cross off the ones you have already changed and make new ones. Also, I suggest that you purchase a Yellow candle, carve your name on it, and anoint it with sandalwood or frankincense oil and chant the following chant: “”I ask to find the inner light of my creativity” I wish for the universe to help me achieve the recognition that I desire.” “I pray that I may find the strength to take chances with my creativity.” Perform this chant along with Psalm 7 every night until the next full moon phase which will be Christmas Day.

The moon in Gemini is Welcoming, Entertaining, Conscious, Coherent, and Flighty. The Airy Gemini Moon gives our heart wings of enchantment, opening us to sociable chats, neighborly visits, community interest, and a bit of change-your-mindedness.

You may also choose to recite a mantra every morning until the next moon cycle. Remember that with all applications of psalms and mantras achieving the desired result is dependent upon the quality of intention. When it comes to finding satisfying relationships and success, it is of the greatest importance to begin with a clear understanding of what your goal should be. The mantras can be hard to pronounce for many but are a powerful source of energy. The mantra for Gemini moon is:

Om Veshnu Namaha

(OM Vesh nu Na Ma Ha)

The intention of this mantra is to call upon the God of protection and harmony to give you internal and external peace without uncertainties.


Please note that these are general tendencies; this is not fixed on one particular chart or prediction. In addition, I am not a pundit nor an astrologer, for punditry please seek them on your own. Or, if you are searching for a western astrologer you may click here for my recommend astrologers.

This moon is geared towards mutable signs (Gemini, Sagittarius, Pisces or Virgo) if you are or have a ascendant of or are involved with one you may get a reading done however this is only meant for those who have had a reading prior to September 2015 and prior nothing sooner.

Enjoy your Thanksgiving and may you be blessed with peace and love.


Maharani Rutan©

Copyright © 2015 www.

Shocking endings and beginnings: First super full moon August 2015


First Super Full moon 2015

Full Moon in Pisces

August 29, 2015

By Maharani Rutan©
The first of the super full moons begins with the 2nd full moon in August. This full moon will trigger our emotions, sensitivity, re-conclusiveness, and solidarity. For many, intuitions will be triggered by the energy and a great deal of awareness to humanity.

On August 29, 2015, the Super full moon in Pisces will light our sky with spectacular grace, sitting beautifully in 5 degree Virgo- Pisces axis. Some of you may even be able to see it as early as the day before, however, it be at its fullest at 2:36pm EST, 11:36am PST depending upon the orb. Perhaps the closest to this degree that can be possibly be recalled would have been August 28, 2007 at 4 degrees in Pisces.

The energy of this moon is so intense that, shocking news may come to many as early as the 21 and that energy will continue until September 5, 2015. It could be good and it could be bad whichever it is it is a nothing that was expected but was suspected.

A couple of days before the Super moon, Mercury retrograde would have entered Libra by beginning its journey through Virgo (Read about it here). The delightful sun will also enter Virgo. Jupiter has already entered Virgo (read about it here). This moon will significantly impact nearly every person. There is no reluctance that this energy will bring more supernatural gifts and we may be more prone, or subtle, to our surroundings and with others. All will seem more luminous under the nimble the full moon. This may impact individuality; becoming more inflated and mostly having to do with our personal relationships with others.

Our sleep will absolutely be troubled and often mystical moons such as this will cause human doubts to connect even more with the universal energies. When Venus enters Leo it seriously influences fun and playfulness. Virgo’s however, take a somber turn from requiring everything fun to now being graver. People you love will be led to deeper considerations. Virgo is unsurprisingly reticent, thoughtful, and a great listener. The difficulty will transpire when the relationship becomes unpredictable; there could be more apprehension in regards to gratitude. Be cautious not to be too precarious to your partner, especially those that have Virgo planets.

Be careful as people tend to be a little awkward during the full moon. Bleeding and lose blood may become a problematic; therefore if you are going for a medical procedure during the full moon take added time to care for yourself. Love, romance, poetry and compassion will be the sparks that bring illumination during the full moon, especially during the midnight hours.

The sun in Virgo and the moon in Pisces can be a very good time to heal when the physical world and spiritual world becomes one. There will be no indication of obsession with trying to find limitations but tolerance as they merge. Mantras, poonam Pooja, as well as prayers can have a key influence on soothing and outcomes as the answers are on a higher level.

On a full moon energy will cause people to become highly disconnected or self-absorbed with concern about humanity and serving others. The Moon in Pisces guides in a time of limitation and realism. Emotional ties, relaxation, healing, and assisting those less privileged is the subject of this full moon. There are also propensities to muse in a quiet place and heal interior aching and surrendering for the sake of humanity. During this full moon be very careful of indulgence, preoccupation, greediness and ego-centrism. As the moon in Pisces represent spirituality, insight, extravagance to materialism, you should focus instead predominantly on being considerate, artistic, and sympathetic.


Be considerate to everyone, as they will go through changes themselves. This transformation is absolutely essential. In less than 30 days, the Solar Eclipse will begin its journey through Virgo as it did for them in 2006 through 2008, and the Lunar Eclipse will end a cycle for Aries, which began October 18, 2013. As they were rechecked by the Universe October 8, 2014, they will be rechecked for what they have learned in two years and for the last time September 27, 2015.

You may choose to recite a mantra every morning until the next moon cycle. Remember that with all solicitations of psalms and mantras accomplishing anticipated results are reliant on upon the value of purpose. The spiritual journey is interdependent upon the journey and the intention as it must be clear and precise without selfish predispositions.

The mantras can be hard to pronounce for many but are a powerful source of energy. The mantra for Pisces moon is:

Om Shri Shiva Namaha

(Oom sha ri shiv a Namaha )

You may reverse the mantra to Om Namaha Shivaya whichever seems easier


For those who want to learn more about mantras or just want to learn to how to pronounce them may go to this You tube video by Sarman Parmar

Additionally, as mercury continues to move backwards in time, I would suggest for Hindu practitioners, as well as those who want to follow the Hindu Philosophies, that one more mantra be added.

Om Buddah Namaha

(om bud dah Na ma ha)

For those who are celebrating Poonam, make sure you do Satyanarayan Pooja and recite the above mantra changing the Namaha to Swaha.

Make sure you have crossed out aspirations that have the slightest change and create 12 new ones. This is a very spiritual moon; aspirations regarding materialism must be voided and replaced with harmony, union, thoughtfulness, and kindness. For Christian practitioners, I recommend to light a white candle on that day. Carve your name on the candle, anoint it with Frankincense oil, and chant Psalm 65 three times.

I am not an astrologer, rather a Vedic reader who unites the energy of both Vedic and Western astrology as a basis to Vedic philosophy. Vedic readers examine the troubles to contribution in shifting contrary destiny and karma to bring optimistic pathways into self-concept as well as self-actualization so the passage can be as sublime as the path that it taken. I highly suggest that if you follow western astrology or are a little curious, I suggest you speak to my recommended advisers Leslie Hale or Xtrology. Otherwise you may seek any of my recommended advisers here

This full moon is going to affect almost everyone and it should be embraced as a change that is absolutely necessary. To recognize that something has to go, or leave, and our psyche will help us with this pathway.

If you wish to have a re-cap, I suggest that Virgos and Aries wait until their eclipses, and remember, the magic number for unification, peace, and healing is 40 days, therefore, if you had a reading done less than 40 days please wait for a re-read until the eclipses pass.


To find out where the moon placement of Pisces is in your chart I would recommend that you contact my preferred astrologers and discuss the impact of this moon. Additionally, request your planet placement for future readings so that you do not spend your resources unnecessarily.

May you have the most super full moon with the extreme empathetic passage ever, however be warned that relationship could end due to assumptions. Jobs can end because of money and on the other hand babies can be born around the full moon and investments could go well too. But Mercury retrograde may slow things down so be mindful

Maharani Rutan©


Copyright © 2015 www. All Rights Reserved

Stopping the Madness Step 3



Step # 3

Lets have a Funeral

The steps to release tension of obsessions can be very difficult thus causing us to fight the urge to change however, I hope to bring positivity in your life and bring healthy relationship changes for a spiritual awakenings. 

It is very difficult to control something that has been out ones control for a while. Its can also be even more complex if it is the only way that perhaps you may have thought it worked in a relationship. Often obsession is an outlet for our own suppression to a certain dilemma your lives and this is the only outlet that you can use without destroying your self but we soon find out it not only destroying us but destroying the people around us as well.  

The steps to resist obsession or rather control obsession can be very intricate.  Especially, at time we may find our selves doing the very thing that we said to ourselves we would not do.  Instead of punishing our selves we may want to try to say, “Wow I caught it” this means you are aware of it and not in defiance.

Now that you are not in denial and you began the step work because you either realized that the behavior patters are not working and that the relationships you carry are not sustainable or stable.  You may have also discovered that you may have been not as happy as you wanted to be in that relationship and you fought for a change but you may have thought it was the other persons fault because either they did not understand you, left you, betrayed your etc.

Though that first two steps were the most difficult in breaking the patterns of obsessions which were..

  1. To get fired
  2. You cant fix it   

And now…Step 3 : Have a funeral 

Now we are going into more personal nature it can only be difficult if you allow it to be but does not have to be.

We are all very weak to memories, some good and some bad.  We also notice when we go to our relative’s homes or visit friends and can’t seem to understand as to why they keep things from years back or start talking about things that happen years ago and often we mistake it as lectures. But what we seem to not understand is we do the same thing. But sometimes those things we hold on to are not always good. Especially when it comes to old relationships memories, especially material things such as letters, pictures, clothing, emails, things that our partner gave to us etc. Matter a fact it is such venom that even after the relationship is long over we look back at the memories of that other person and never give a 100% to our new partner because we are always in a comparison mode.

Often times we must let go of patterns of behavior that is really unhealthy for us.  Sometimes we need to let go of people that are unhealthy as well. Sometimes all as failed and the only resort is some sort of a funeral service.  Whether you are a Christian, Catholic, Jewish, Muslim, Hindu or any religion it does not matter.  What matters is how honest are you to your self to want to do this? The only way to bring healthy things in our lives is to understand everything in life dies.

We are so fixated to attachment to something to someone that sometimes we hang on to relationships because we do not want to be alone or hang on to material things because perhaps we can have that time back.  But we can not recover the past, we can not be afraid of being alone because we all have been alone when we were younger and we did just fine. The world that you may have lived in was a fantasy can not be realistic now.  You have to be healthy to bring healthy relationships but to do this we have to inventory our selves. There are only 3 steps of this inventory. Ask you’re self:

 What’s so good about holding on to things or feelings of the past?

  1. What is the worst that could happen if I don’t hold on to it?
  2. What am I so afraid of? Is it because I know I am not perfect or he is not perfect?

I always say that the value of relationship definition comes from our own expectations, and it has been researched and theorized that when we have high expectations we always fail, because we are not accepting of a situation, person or place the way it is rather we are living in a fantasy where we mold it into what we think it should be.

To be able to disconnect the cord of dysfunctional tendencies we must disconnect ourselves from the material world by symbolically doing things on a physical plane so that we affect it in our spiritual plane.

 When you realize the person whom are with is not really on the spiritual or emotional plane as you are and you know deep in your heart that no matter what you try no matter how much you tell that person how you feel it seems like a dead end and the only thing you are holding on to is the “honeymoon state” then you know it is really not meant to be.


When you realize that the other person has betrayed your trust or even that the other person is with someone else and going back and forth can not continue. The more you let go the more the person goes back and forth.

This is because you are attached to them on a physical world and they continue to destroy your spiritual world. The only you can detach is disconnect on a physical plane.


So lets have a funeral.. and here is how it is done.

  1.  Gather every letter, physical items, photographs even gifts place them in a box and write a letter to the universe where you must release the energy of that person because you have to.  It is affecting you spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially.  I personally have done this many times in my life not only with the ones I have been a relationship with but even friends because even friends have a way of darning you.  
  2. Go in nature or even near a place where people will not mind you burning things or even your backyard if you have one.  Remember they are just material things cost should not matter because it was real at that time and today is no longer real. Do not gas it but use camphor and light the camphor inside the box or boxes.  Depending upon the number of items in the box it may take time.  But be sure you place aluminum foil at the bottom of the box so that it does not damage the ground. During which time ask the universe to let the healing begin with you and the other party and help you forgive the other person for their actions and help you understand why this had to be let go. I have often done Astrotravel or even meditated during the burning process. 
  3. After the items are done burning and even those that did not burn.  Bury them under a tree or near things that grow.  Make sure you place flowers on the ground. 
  4. Make a few confessions to the universe such as I bury this which was once a part of my life now it has out grown me.  Or Help me meet the person who is worthy of me.  Or bring me solutions where my energy should go rather then focusing on others to make me happy or trying hard to help others.

Through these methods we allow the universe to pull away the negative energy from you and bring light where it is needed.  According to Judy Hayes in her book Smart Love, she says “When you are letting of old beliefs and habits and began to replace them with positive ones, this is sure a sign that you are on the right road to recovery”(2001, pg 46). However the recovery begins with you.  The longer you hold on to the past the more difficult it is to move into the future.

 This type of behavior is not negative, rather positive that you are setting boundaries in your own life, because until you learn to love your self-you can not possibly love others. 

Ask your self this.. do I want to continue to chase rainbows or do I want relationships that are the healing work of the universe? If it is the latter then ask your self can you go to step 4?

As you know prior to blogging, the first place this topics are announced is on blog talk radio, below is the link to the show.  The show is only one hour long due to the fact of my own every day life exhausted me and many people were down because of the Full moon in Leo.  I know full moon’s always exhaust me…  

Listen to Maharani Rutan on Blog Talk Radio

Enjoy the show!



Stopping the Madness



Letting go of obsessive behavior patterns in a relationship is not easy.  It can be very painful transition on an emotional, spiritual and physical level.  But for this to happen we must admit to our selves that we do have a problem.  We must also examine why our relationships do not fulfill us in the aspect we want it to. To do this we have to understand why we may think we are obsessed.  But it is apparent that you may think that otherwise you would not be here.

To able to recognize obsessionwe must clearly define the word obsession. This means to understand it on a psychological level and physiological level. This means that an obsessed person may have to read and re-read this to clearly understand where it is they stand in area of their relationship as well as to understanding obsessive behavior patterns. It is important to go over them again because we must continue to recognize.

As discussed in the previous chapter, many psychologist, theorist and researchers have interrelated obsession to indulgence. Webster Dictionary defines obsession as “a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling; broadly: compelling motivation” (on the web). Therefore, agreeing that obsession is a feeling and we know that feelings are never consistent but always flux depending upon the relationship as well as the environment. Additionally, it has been proven that obsession is control geared through oppression of some sort. This means that obsession has oppressive energies we often constrain our selves without knowing it. According to Iris Young’s article Five Faces of Oppression, “While these constrains include distributive patterns, they also involve matters which cannot be easily assimilated to logic of distribution or decision-making procedures” (2004, pg 43). In easier terms Young is stating that oppression is a trigger which allows for obsession to constraints us. It also causes us to have only one way of thinking and logic is used only to justify our actions of obsessive behavior.

Though it is not easy to break the patters of these cycles it can be done. According to Jody Hayes, author of Smart Love, “this means letting go of our over involvement in the lives of others. It means letting go of depending on others for approval and of the need to have others act certain ways” (2002, pg37). There has to be some sort of consideration to realize our patterns through behavior. This is to embed the process to think about what we did or what we were doing before we got so involved in the life of others but it also means that we must admit that we are obsessive.

But to understand and admit that we are obsessed, there has to be a certain pattern that we continue to follow, which is to understand why we are never fully happy with our relationships even when things are going great. That the life spans of our relationships are short lived. Or that we keep going back to our ex only do end up making promises we can not keep, thus brining the relationship back exactly where it was when things got chaotic. Additionally, to understand and accept which is the number one step; admitting that we do have a problem is simply to recognize it first.

Though some of these questions may be redundant from the previous chapter,.it is important to go over them again because we must continue to recognize.



What is obsessive behavior in a love relationship ?

(from the beginning from 1 to 6 mo)

1. Buying your partner expecting appreciation and more affection in return.
2. Wanting to spend every moment with them and getting mad when they have other plans
3. Getting jealous when they talk about the opposite sex or someone they find attractive.
4. Getting upset when they do not return your calls right away
5. Getting upset when they do not invite you to a certain event or gathering.
6. Getting upset when they do not want to introduce you to their friends or family.
7. Getting upset when they have priorities in their lives and you are not one of them.
8. Getting upset when they don’t want you to come over or want to come over.
9. Getting upset when they are not always being feeling oriented (touchy feely)
10. Getting upset when they do not want to be intimate as much as you.


The obsessive behavior patterns in a long term relationships are often the same as the one in a brand new relationship however, the matters of commitments may be the core issues which causes insecurities. And by this time the oppressor has already failed recognize their obsession which was outlined as red flags, sending triggers but they choose to ignore it. Additionally, the suppressed enabled the oppressor by allowing this type of behavior and misunderstanding it as love and having hope it will change in the future.

Here are some of the issues of a long term relationship obsessive behaviors

1. Wanting to know what your partner is doing every moment.
2. Wanting to help resolve partner emotional, financial and spiritual issues.
3. Getting too involved with family and discussing your partners’ faults and looking for help.
4. Revealing your partner’s secrets to other people.
5. Wanting the partner to revolve their lives around yours.
6. Following them calling them and stocking them when they are being aloof and when nothing is found then making up a scenario to find out their reaction.
7. Trying too hard to fit into the friends and family circle of your partner.
8. Pushing for marriage when the other person is not ready spiritually, financially or emotionally.
9. Find the passwords of their email account or checking their messages if it be, text or otherwise.
10. Going through their personal belongings.

The worst part of this kind of behavior is that it can be difficult for a suppress to handle and often times they end up leaving because by this time they have lost all respect for you and their self-esteem is shattered so there is no room for real reconciliation because it is ego driven. The ego driven relationship could have three final conclusions:

1. The relationship happens very quickly everything happens quickly where two people could end up moving in together in a short period of time or plan for an engagement within months or even start making future plans which are to take place in 1 to 2 or even 3 years. They began to share finances, family as well as their own closet demons which they have not shared with anyone. And within a short period of time the engagement is broken or the suppressed moves out.
2. The relationship is not honest after some time the suppressed looks for solace in other areas of their lives by deceiving the situation through separating themselves from their partner in a indirect way for example, being dishonest, cheating, and being inconsistent with their behavior as well as communication. Additionally, they start hiding things from the oppressed waiting for a conflict to occur so they have a way out, not wanting to hurt the other person.
3. The relationship go into time out where now the suppressor has more control because the oppressor has felt so guilty that they try everything to bring the suppressed back into their life by making false promises. And the suppressed continues to maintain control by controlling the communication as well as the relationship. For example when things are good the suppressed actually wants to be with oppressed but when the pressure gets too much and the patterns are repeating then they run away again and again, therefore, there is neither real closure nor no real opening.

The question remains how does one stop the patterns of obsessive behavior? It has already been stated that obsessive behavior patterns is like a drug, you can not stop in an instant unless you have great resistant power. If you had great resistant power then you would not be in this dilemma. And most of all you would not be reading this unless you knew that some of the red flags are present. Like any addictive program it begins with steps and step work is very important for our resistance to negative patterns of behavior and a utility to bring healthy patterns in ones life.

Step 1


First thing is to admit and get laid off from your job of trying to be obsessed and find another job which is to live your life before this all began. This means you are not your partner’s psychologist, mother, father, brother, sister, banker, maid, handyman, financial advisor, nor psychic advisor. You need not to solve any of your partner’s problems. If they ask for help then you may start the question by saying “I think…. , but I respect your decision” whether you like it or not it is their life. In turn they will respect you more by not trying to resolve their issues. Some people have the wrong idea that if they don’t help their partners or potential partners that the other person will feel that their partner does not care. A healthy relationship does not require obsessive behaviors. Detachment from the issues means to identify, my problems, his or her problems and our problems”, it also means to take care of your own needs so that the partner does not always have to worry about what you are doing and start fixing themselves and their issues. To do this you must..
A. Give them their freedom to do what they want whether you agree or not so that you are not their mommy or daddy.
B. Give them time so that they can resolve their own issues so that you are not their psychologist.
C. Give them respect by not enabling them by fixing their financial issues so that you are not their banker.
D. Give them their own pride so that you are not policing their lives
E. Give them integrity by letting them make their own decision so that you are not a nag,
F. Give them understanding so that you are not going around trying to help them make mends with their own conflicts with their friends, family or other relationships in their life so that you are not their mediator.
G. Give them respect whether they are correct or incorrect so that you give them honor.

Whether you choose to get fired or you quit it does not matter how you do it, what matter is that you do it, but remember you can not graduate or learn without doing your lessons and have the capacity to go to the next step which is to resolve issues outside of your occupation. So don’t go and find a job as a waitress when you can’t even pick up after you’re self. Most of all you can’t be a surgeon when you cant stand blood. Lastly, ask your self can I go to step 2? Have I learned or do I need to start all over again? But, most of all this worth it- Do I love my self enough to let the universe help me to get to step 2?

Ability to go to step 2 means that you are inviting ONLY healthy relationship that you are powerless over others, can you admit that? When you do then you are human and deserve respect and healing from the universe.

This topic was aired live on BlogTalk Radio on January 15, 2010 at 9pm EST.  The archived clip link is below..

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I hope you enjoy and decide to apply it to your life …