Apr 22 2018

Hidden Endings during a Spiritual Moon: Full moon in Scorpio 2018

Full Moon in Scorpio

Buddha Purnima/ Blessed Vesak Day

April 29/30, 2018

As we finally move away from the dreads of winter, and the unusual roller coaster of weather patterns, we are coming on to the most beautiful and spiritual moon of the spring.

April 29/30, 2018 marks a time for the last full moon in April. However, it also marks a time of the Scorpio moon in Taurus axis at 9 degrees depending upon the orb. The moon will be visible at approximately 8:58pm EST & 5:38pm PST.

This moon is known as the Pink moon in the Northern Hemisphere and the Blood moon in the Southern Hemisphere. Both names were given due to the hue of the reflection cast upon the grass. Making the moon even more auspicious is the fact that many countries will celebrate Buddha’s Birth during this period.

Whether you are Christian, Jewish, Catholic, Hindu, or even Muslim, Buddha’s teaching and philosophies have been adopted by many great thinkers and religious people. This moon will be a divine dedication all over the world. It will bring forth dynamism and devoutness to bring aspiration, beauty, and faith through awareness to enlighten and cleanse ourselves and join with the world around us.

Scorpio/Taurus moon is going to be especially pivotal for all those that have early degree Scorpio and Taurus in their VPAT chart. While Scorpios keep things hidden, Taurus loves to be transparent even though it may not be good for them. Thus, in representation for the inner battles some of us will face during this full moon, the following Buddha quote will best represent the mood we must place ourselves in.

“Three things cannot be long hidden: The sun, moon, and the truth”- Buddha

Many of the covert actions, reactions, and communications will now be out in the open, due to the energy of the full moon and planetary influences. Even if some of the short transits have beginning to move direct, this does not mean that some of us will remain unaffected. For example, on April 15, 2018, Mercury moved direct (read more here), however, by moving into Taurus it means that the residue is still open to the aggravation of people, being extremely stubborn until the end of April.

One of the most important transits is Chiron moving into Aries on April 17, 2018, and continuing to move back and forth between Aries and Pisces in 2018 and 2019. Ultimately, this transit will last for a full 8-year cycle. The mode of Chiron is that those who have fire signs in their charts (especially Aries) may feel shattered, insufficient, possibly depressed, difficulty with making or keeping friendships, or unable to explain yourself or your feelings. These are just the minor pretensions of Chiron, explaining why this moon will be very significant.

Chiron in Pisces was a very tough time for me, and those who have had similar planets could possibly relate. Go backwards to 2009/2010 then move forward slowly; think about all the wounds, pain, and doubts that you felt. Now, come back to today. You will have a chance in July one more time, to see what is like with, and without, Chiron. Therefore, take the time to meditate and be one with the Earth by practicing Yoga.

Setbacks will continue to be difficult for Fire signs as Saturn remains in Sagittarius (according to VPAT) until 2020, and it is retrograding. Therefore, all fire signs (Leo, Aries, and Sagittarius) may seem draining and lethargic to many. Remember, for everything that happens, there is a reason.

Instead of paying attention, there may be tendency to give people advice before hearing what is being spoken. Inflexibility, doubts, uncertainties, and rigidness can be avoided by taking things one step at a time.

However, in the eyes of Vedic readers, this moon will be quite substantial to Scorpios and those who have primary planets in Scorpio. Anxiety just adds to the pessimism; keep in mind that this moon is about rebirth, renewal, and integration.

Pluto rules Scorpios’ central areas of darkness and light. It is a rupture between decency and corruptness. Scorpios bloom on control, desire, and the unknown. Therefore, if anyone has the sun or the moon in Scorpio this event will be even more penetrating than any others. Ask yourself how much can you burn or rather, regain. From ashes to ashes, the Phoenix will rise.

Nonetheless, when Pluto is retrograding, it may be difficult to put the past behind you or to try something new. Past issues may repeat themselves to see how well you handle the situations yet to come. However, keep in mind that just because a chart does not have a sun in Scorpio does not mean that this moon will not affect you. As a matter of fact, if there are any planets in Scorpio they will be ignited by this. Do I have your attention now?

For Scorpios and ascendants of Scorpios, you may have misunderstandings with your partner; there is something hidden, but it was not really buried as it was preferred to be ignored. No matter what is discovered, it should not be a surprise. But, If you are in a healthy relationship it could mean that you have the edge this month. Communication with your partner will be genuine and close, with no shortage of romance.

Be very careful, however, as relationships are bound to end or go through hardship starting as early as April 19 through May 3, 2018.

Everything becomes less tainted and more powerful under the light of the Full Moon; desires and individualities can become quite embellished, and we may have more consciousness and focus on relationships. There is a gust of energy from the light of the moon, perhaps there may even be more powerful dreams at night. Flow of blood and hemorrhaging are more likely during a Full Moon, so take care. This is the time to Reap, Pray and be Thankful, and to work on productivity and success.

The moon in Scorpio marks a time of directing lust and cravings. People may be feeling more arrogant and more mystifying, as well as being sensitive and pragmatic. In general, emotions at both ends are sharp and likely to vary quite a bit.

Represented by the Scorpion, Scorpio owns a mysterious and unescapable nature. Feelings of dishonesty and revenge may rise, so special caution is needed to avoid struggles. The Scorpio full moon can be an element for uncontrolled impulses, which can often result in viciousness or even damaging coercion.

Remember that Scorpio has a distrustful and mysterious nature. Avoid social complications. Beware of distrust and watch out for the Scorpio Sting. Please remember to forgive and forget and be cautious when interacting with the opposite sex. However, this could be a good time for powerful integration with another person on a deep emotional level!

The moon in Scorpio represents Impulsive, Strong-minded, Unstable, Brave, and Robust. It is my suggestion for us to remain balanced. Because this full moon is extraordinary to many signs, it is my suggestion that you purchase a white candle and carve your name through to the wick. Anoint the candle with lavender oil and sandalwood oil, and chant the Psalm 39.

You may also choose to recite a mantra every morning until the next moon cycle. Remember that with all applications of psalms and mantras achieving the desired result is dependent upon the quality of intention. The four mantras Scorpio moon are:

Easy

Om Aing Kleeng Sauh

(ommm iiing Kliing saaa uhaa)

Difficult

Om Narayanaya Sursinmhaya Namah

(ommm Nara yana ya sur sin mha ya Nam ah)

Advance

Aum Angarkaya vidmahe bhoomipalaya dhimahi tanno kujah prachodayat…Aum Chitri Putrayai Vidmahe Loyhe Tangai dhimahi Tanno Bhooma Prachodayat

Expert

Yasya nke cha vibha:ti bhu dharsuta devapaga mastake, Bhale balbidhurgale cha garalam yasyorasi vyalraat Soyam bhumivibhisanah survarah sarvadhipah sarvada Sharvah sarvgatah shivah shashinibhah shri Shankar patu maam”

These mantras are to call to the lord of harmony and for the elimination of any difficulties in your way.

Please remember that I am NOT an astrologer. Rather, I am a Vedic reader; one who integrates Astronomy, Astrology, Numerology, Dharma, Karma, and Vedic predispositions to build the most accurate readings which lead to the pathway of transformation and confidence.

May the light of the moon help you to discover, and be one with, yourself…

Namaste
Maharani

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Apr 7 2018

Robust, Rage and Regression: New Moon in Aries April 2018

New Moon in Aries

April 15, 2018

By Maharani Rutan©

On April 15, 2018, at approximately 9:57pm EST and 6:57 PST, orbiting approximately 26 degrees depending upon the placement will be the new moon in Aries. This period will bring renewed thoughts and robustness through the fiery moon in Aries. The new beginning will transform all those who are born in the later sign of Aries. As this is such a unique transit it may feel like you are on antihistamines.

However, for some Bengali’s, this is a perfect reset button welcoming spring and a start of something new. Read more about New Years in the spring here.

In one hand there will be a burst of energy to hurry up on ideas and be bold. In the other hand Mercury moves direct now (read more here) and will slow you down to reconsider if this is really what you want. But be cautioned that the post regression period is as crucial and painstaking as if it was in retrograde station. Mercury tends to be the slowest planet but the fastest transit. Therefore, things can change in an instant.

As mother nature has been cruel to some northerners with sporadic snow and rain, it could be her way of letting us know that we have much to do. If you have not begun your projects, this new moon will give the dynamism to do so. It may also give you the strength needed to do things in a different way, or to examine what does not fit your lifestyle any longer. This means all that is out of order will be forced out or one may get signals of the want for change.

But watch out, all may look beautiful, however, Chiron (known as a wounded healer in Western Astrology) but in VPAT, (Vedic Philosophical Ayurvedic Theories) as a past life karma igniter, is moving into Aries for a little while. Ok. Ok…for a long while (10 years). But for now, it is a short while – from April 16, 2018 until July 2, 2018. Then it retrogrades back into Pisces again.

Chiron is a healer but he is also a teacher. This planet wants us to move away from the material world and look for more spiritual beliefs. It often causes loneliness, feeling left out, or it can cause enormous depression. In VPAT it can be called something of a mid-life crisis and happens around the age 50. Those babies that were born 1968 through 1978 will go through their Chiron, especially Aries’. The only way to lessen the severity is to devote yourself to more spiritual aspects such as yoga, meditation, mantras, and performing more holistic duties.

Perhaps April 15, Tax Day for many is just a glimpse of what we have coming. We must look at new projects, new way of earning money or even perhaps get a second job. We have already had Wall Street tank and many lost monies. This definitely is a preparation of what is coming in May 2018. Perchance could it be that history repeats itself again when Uranus enters Taurus? “The last time this magnificent planet entered Taurus, our world was not the same; it was the time of the Wall Street crash, the great financial depression, and World War II”. (Read more about it here).

Saturn retrograde in Sagittarius may help slightly and push away a little bit of pain? Remember, VPAT considers Saturn still in Sagittarius, NOT in Capricorn, at this time. Though the transit could last for 2.5 years, depending upon how many planets one has in Fire signs it could last up to 7 years.

With the mix of energies that was felt in March we are continuously directed to follow a path of self-reflection. It is time to have better control of things we can control, especially in the areas of other people’s money or professionalism.

The new moon gives prospective to put new things into action. The liveliness is influential enough to give the motivation that one needs to make accurate choices. Minor fluctuations will activate larger changes and taking chances will be wonderful. It is a time for manifestation, planting seeds, and the creation of plans.

When the moon is in Aries there is no time to contemplate; relativity it is balanced between taking action and making sure desires are met. Aries wishes passion and fire. In the same respect, there is a need for independence, poise, and disposition. There is a desire to take charge of emotional situations and find immediate resolution.

The Moon in Aries marks a time of augmented success and drive. People may feel more enthusiastic and be more spirited. This is a good time to begin new projects or to try to apply chosen transformation. Like the charging Ram that represents Aries, people may be motivated to rush vigorously and impulsively without seeing the potential outcome to both themselves and others.

Consideration needs to be well thought out to avoid narcissism and hot-blooded behavior. The Fiery Aries Moon brings eagerness to our emotions, instant reactions, and bravery in the face of any opponent! Give in to the energy and strive for new beginnings.

Since the moon in Aries represents impulsive, stubborn, short-tempered, daring, and eager inclinations, it is my suggestion for us to remain autonomous. I recommend that you purchase a white candle and carve your name through to the wick. Anoint the candle with lavender oil and sandalwood oil, and chant the Psalm 39.

You may also choose to recite a mantra every morning until the next moon cycle. This year there are four mantras. Depending upon your capacity to learn and pronounce them, each mantra is more powerful than the next. The more complicated it is, the more powerful; however, proper pronunciation is necessary otherwise the purpose will be defeated. Therefore, start with the easiest and progress up the levels.

The mantra for Aries moon is:

Easy

Om Aing Kleeng Sauh

(ooom Ahhiiing Kliing Sa uuuh)

Difficult

Om hrim shri lakshminarayana namah

Advance

Aum Angarkaya vidmahe bhoomipalaya dhimahi tanno kujah prachodayat…Aum Chitri Putrayai Vidmahe Loyhe Tangai dhimahi Tanno Bhooma Prachodayat

Expert

Yasya:nke cha vibha:ti bhu:dharsuta: devapaga: mastake, Bhale balbidhurgale cha garalam yasyorasi vyalraat Soyam bhumivibhisanah survarah sarvadhipah sarvada: Sharvah sarvgatah shivah shashinibhah shri Shankar patu maam

This mantra is the dis-speller of unconsciousness and unawareness.The intention of this mantra is to keep one in balance; from losing our temper through darkness and unfocused energy.

Affirmations for the energy of the New Moon in Aries:

I use my narrow-mindedness and anger constructively … to make productive changes in my life.
I respect the encouragement behind my passions and desires … and use this control sensibly.
I use my self-assertion to construct, control,
and uphold the conditions I want in my life.
I offer brave, positive direction to myself
and others with my choosing and actions.
With pleasure and gratitude, I launch my resourcefulness …
to begin the energetic makings and projects of my life.

This new moon will tug soul and spirit, carry confidence, and promote healing. However, it is also action-oriented. It prompts values in our lives to start something new; perhaps a new project or relationship (or bring back an old one). Perhaps you want your individual freedom now? It is about reinventing, reassessing, and allowing you to let the past go and be enthusiastic about what is yet to come.

It is time to let go of the ways that were not working and release poisonous relationships that are broken by concentrating on leniency and moving on. This new moon will bring forth those issues by forcing one to come to terms with severe realities and releases. These issues are the things that continue to hold you back.

Please note that I am not an astrologer; rather, I am a Vedic reader, and astrological venues are the groundwork utilities needed to enhance Vedic reading. If you wish to speak with a Western astrologer, it is my suggestion that you contact my recommended astrologer Leslie Hale or other colleagues of mine whom I highly respect and speak for.

May this moon bring you the energy that you need to begin new things and be inspired to be creative.

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Namaste,
Maharani

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Mar 17 2018

Darkness blessed with Grace: New Moon in Pisces 2018

New Moon in Pisces

St. Patrick’s Day

March 17, 2018

By Maharani Rutan©

During this sluggish time as Mercury makes is way to retrograde, we are given an opportunity to turn every dream into reality. Hand in hand with St. Patrick’s Day, wishes also could be granted.

As the luck of the Irish brings joy to many with celebrations and laughter, the New Moon brings forth return, reappearance, and rebirth. In VPAT (Vedic Philosophical Ayurvedic Theories) no matter what cycle the moon is orbiting in, the sun, moon and the earth are significant parts of our ancestors. The New Moon in Pisces also represents returning to ones roots.

On March 17, 2018 we will have a New Moon in Pisces at 27 degrees, at approximately 9:12am EST, 6:12 am PST depending upon the orb. Those that will be affected by this moon will be just about everyone, especially those that have primary planets in Pisces.

There is an old saying in the VPAT, that 92% of the human population has Pisces somewhere in their chart, therefore, all would be affected. Those that do not have Pisces in their chart will continue to return to earth until such time there is Pisces placement in their birth chart.

Although many people may say that the New Moon is a is time to take action, VPAT will relay that it’s time to come up with ideas and the desire and not to act upon them yet. It could be as simple as changing one’s way of living, or how they are living. But it is not the time to plant seeds. Seeds should always be planted on the full moon as the moon blesses it.

This is the time to act from your soul and trust the universe will lead you in the right direction. Please remember that we are still under Mercury energy and relationships may have problems while communications may be a bit confusing (read more here).

The New Moon sanctifies the “new”; an invitation to understand that even crazy ideas can be profitable. It is about formations, ideas, and prospects, especially for a higher spiritual level.

Pisces moon is generally a time of congruence, love, and the rooting of every seed; whether it is a life or in the ground. It is a time of earth rejuvenation as the first traces of spring are so mischievously close. It’s also a moon of Shiva who destroys our imperfection to bring spiritual development and evolution.

The Pisces New Moon signifies a time of very exaggerated dispositions and replies. The influence of sensitive energy can be beneficial if focused into ingenious activities and self-healing, but there is often a strong desire to simply slip into interference. It is better to contemplate in optimistic interests, rather than produce a more harmful distracting activity.

Gloomy predispositions can easily take control of one’s life under this New Moon. Its influence can be particularly tough or confusing for those who were born under a New Moon PHASE, as well as for those of the mutable Sun Signs Virgo, Gemini, and Sagittarius. Also, for those whose birth Moon is in Pisces, this New Moon can represent a serious time for probable accidents, injuries, disorder, and the responsibility of hasty choices or decisions.

The Watery Pisces Moon touches every person suffering with a caring and subtle heart. Careful what you put to others, share your dreams, and tap into your deepest imaginations. Don’t let your wandering heart get lost!

The Moon in Pisces marks a time of zealous kindness, downheartedness, and spirituality. People may become more indirect, sympathetic, or creative. Intuitiveness will be heightened. This is a good time to discover musical talents and other artistic actions.

Represented by a Pair of Fish. Pisces are philanthropically and spiritual, often strongly intuitive, and they are willing to the collective insensible. While the Moon moves through Pisces, people may feel loyal and quiet, but also fragile, submissive, and fearful. Visions and recollections may be stimulated during this affect.

Since the moon in Pisces is Deep, Inspired, Psychic, Mediated, and Ingenious, it is my suggestion that you purchase a Purple candle and carve your name through to the wick. Anoint the candle with Sage oil or Lavender oil and chant the Psalm 08.

You may also choose to recite a mantra every morning until the next moon cycle (March 31, 2018). Remember that with all submissions of psalms and mantras, accomplishing the anticipated outcome is dependent upon the eminence of purpose. When it comes to finding satisfying relationships, it is of extreme importance to begin with a clear understanding of what your goal should be. The mantras can be hard to pronounce for many but are a powerful source of energy.

This year, as many are becoming more advanced in Sanskrit mantras, moving into more powerful mantras and proper pronunciation will be the key to better manifestations. The mantras for the Pisces moon are:

Easy

Om Hreeng Kleeng Sauh

(oom hiring kliing sauuuh)

Difficult

Om Kleem Uddhritaya Udharine Namah

Advance

Gurubrihaspatirjeevah suracharyo vidaanvarah vaagisho dhishadon dirshashamshruh pitambaro yuvaa

Expert

“Om Namo Bhagavathe Dakshinaamoorthaye…Mahyam Medhaam Pragnyaam Prayachas Swaha Vrushabath Vajaaya VidhMahe Kruni Hastaaya DheeMahee-Thanno Guru: Prachodayaath…ApraMeyathva ya theedha Nirmala Nyaana Moorthaye…Manogi raam Vidhooraaya Dakshinaa Moorthaye Namaha”

This Siddha mantra uses the universal elements that govern each charka: Earth, Water, Fire, and Air.

Please remember that I am not an astrologer, rather, a Vedic reader. If you are looking to see how this New Moon will affect you directly, I suggest you look up some of my wonderful colleagues that specialize in Western astrology. My readings focus on the deviations that can be applied to bring sublime bliss to problematic conditions and help you find forks to make choices.

Make this moon the most spiritual moon that you have ever had, and remember, Mercury retrograde influences all aspects of one’s life.

Thank you for continuing to read my post. I have been so blessed and have now been freelancing some cultural articles on keen that you may like.

The first article was written during Valentine’s Day and how Vedic cultural defines love. The second article focuses on how Vedic culture relates spring to Holi.

Namaste
Maharani Rutan©

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Jul 4 2017

Cosmos at War only Humans Provoked: Full Moon in Capricorn

Full Moon in Capricorn

Full Thunder Moon

July 08/09, 2017

By Maharani Rutan©

Take a deep breath and enjoy these few weeks before the monsoons of the planets hits humanity one by one. I spoke about the trouble times in my blog in December 2016 to prepare you for this day (read about it here). Now, it’s almost as if you have to look at the world through different glasses. Imagine for a moment that the planets are at war against each other in June and July (22-23), 2017. All of humanity on Earth is in the crossfire and chaos builds over time with the culprit being “M&M”.

For some this may be funny, but I call it Mickey Mouse rather than Mercury and Mars. I don’t know about you but both of these planets drive me bonkers. However you see them, know that they are crucial planets. According to VPAT (Vedic Philosophical Ayurvedic Theories), the war is not new news, but old news. Some humans have been affected by this for 6 months, others for this month only, and some will be affected in July. When M&M gets involved with Gemini it spells TROUBLE. Imagine twins with M&M’s, oh boy.

For the past 6-8 months, there has been some on-and-off hopelessness, unhappiness, and even some despair for Leo, Gemini, Capricorn, Aquarius, Pisces, Aries, and Taurus. In June, there will be high highs and low lows for Gemini, Sagittarius, and Scorpio. But it had been/is was very positive over all for Virgos. Finally, when Buddha moves away from Gemini (I am referring to Mercury) just after this full moon, there will be some significant changes that could occur; I will elaborate more later in this blog. But for now, this moon will be as memorable as the name it was given.

The Thunder Full Moon Cancer-Capricorn, on July 09 at 12:06 am EST and 9:06 pm PST July 08, 2017. It will transit Cancer-Capricorn at 17 degrees, depending upon the orb and hemisphere.

Every sign will be pretentious under this moon, particularly Capricorn or those who have Capricorn in their charts. Remember, we are still under many retrograde periods; therefore, be kind to yourself and others around you.

Along with this beautiful Full moon, it is a very auspicious day for some Hindus where we celebrate Guru Purnima. For Hindus all over the world, mostly Gujarati, Brahmins call it Vyas Purnima. This day is for blessing and commemoration of a Guru Ved Vyas who decoded and transcribed the eighteen Purnas and the Mahabarata. Many consider a Guru as an educator, divine faith healer, a remover of darkness, or a priest. Many followers fast and rejoice the sanctions of their Guru. It is the thankfulness for of all the delightful lessons that have been distributed on to them.

The Earthy Full Moon brings a time of wisdom and blooming. It is a period of individual nirvana, but also a time to examine for the abysmal significance in what you’ve generated. Especially needed at this time is to ask yourself: How can you incorporate your idea into the world for the better of all?

The Full Moon urges you to know the righteousness and meaning of the “other” – other people, philosophies, and morals. You are called upon now to work toward achieving steadiness – balance of your internal nature and outer character, balance of your necessity to take with your capability to give, poise of your vital standards with what is conceivable in the world. Capricorn Moon sets us straight up the mountainside toward our highest goals. Dig in those hooves and get climbing!

During the Capricorn moon the energy will be drawn to seek politeness and formality in all things – thus you may be one who does not eagerly express emotion. Emotional situations are serious, consider the consequences of your words and actions. There is a preference to be with people who are self-controlled and correct. Yearning for those who are determined, applied, and good leaders.

With the moon in Capricorn, the pulsation of Saturn is highlighted. It is time for quantifiable drive and a consciousness of work and duty. In the pursuit for standing and economic security, people influence indifferently, even cruelly, but it is an egotistical requirement rather than bitterness.

The Saturn impacts of Capricorn cause glumness or in-constructiveness to sneak in. Usually, while the Moon is in Capricorn energy is lethargic. It is time for industriousness, put on yourself to tasks while living exclusively in the present. The Earthy Capricorn Moon sets us up the traditional mountainside toward our highest goals.

Clear goals are going to be an absolute after July 3 when Mars leave Gemini, which will cause problems for Gemini’s and their family members, including their spouse. As Mars leaves Gemini it will then affect Sagittarius where there could be a financial crisis or pressures in their job. At the same time, Pisces may get a cold as they don’t like Mars because it makes them steamy. While Taurus is too stubborn to deal with the heat, they need to be careful with arguments too, at home and at work.

As we are in Cancer Sun, they won’t be left out of the disturbed energy. They could have some emotional remorse, and since they can’t argue, they will just fight themselves. Whatever crucial decisions are to be made wait until after the 14th. Please spend some time with your Leo friend, maybe both of you can help each other; self-confidence will also help.

Scorpios know what is happening with their life and perhaps they finally deal with their pain by spending time at a place they find peaceful. Meanwhile, Capricorns are faced with dealing with issues of their partners. The only people that will foster well during this period will be Aquarius, Aries, and Libra. Asking them for help however, may only get you a conceited answer or no answer at all.

The moon in Capricorn is Ambitious, Serious, Determined, Practical, and Capricious. You may choose to recite a mantra every morning until the next moon cycle. Remember that with all submissions of prayers and mantras, completing the preferred result is dependent upon the eminence of purpose. When it comes to finding satisfying relationships and success, it is of the greatest importance to begin with a clear understanding of what your goal should be.

The mantras can be hard to pronounce for many but are a powerful source of energy. As you may notice I do not have candle or essential oil in this blog as the eclipse energy is so close and the chaotic energy of the planets are creating negative energy. Therefore, mantras will be enough healing energy at this time. I have chosen three mantras this year. The mantras for Capricorn moon are:

Easy:

Om Aing Kleeng Hreeng Shreeng Sauh

(oommm Aaaaaiiiiinnnnggg kllllliiiinnng Hrrrriiing Shhhh riiing Saaauuuh)

Difficult

Om Shreem Upendraya Achutaya Namah

For expert

Om Shanno devīrabhistdaapo bhavantupītaye Aparadhasahastrani kriyanteharnisam maya Dasoyamiti maa matva kshamasva paramesvara. Gatam papam gatam du Kham gatam daridraya meva ch…Agatah Sukha- sampatti punyoham tava darsanat”

Please note that I am not a Western or Vedic Astrologer, I am a Certified Vedic reader who incorporates Vedic Philosophical Ayurvedic Theories into every reading. This is to incorporate possible outcomes used to redirect the ultimate outcome into desired results. For a Western reader, you may seek my recommended Astrologers here

If you are an earth sign and have not had a update since the Eclipse, this will be your update until the August Eclipse. If you are involved with an earth sign the same principle applies.

Wishing you the best full moon of July as this will be the last full moon until the eclipse. Be well and I hope you have/had a good 4th of July.

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Namaste
Maharani Rutan©

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Dec 27 2015

Generosity, Grace and Glory: Transformation 2016 Predictions

2016 Vedic Philosophical Prediction

By Maharani Rutan©

On Christmas Eve Day I decided to write my predictions for 2016. I could not help but to ponder the sadness of 2015. The great legions that passed away that that made differences in the lives of so many. From the co-founder of North Face (Douglas Tompkins) who kept us warm in the cold weather, to the designer of the Bat-mobile which everyone wanted (George Barris). Not to mention Former Senator Fred Thompson, perhaps better known as the District Attorney in Law and Order. We also saw the passing of Jackie Collins who kept most women’s romance alive in their hearts through her wonderful novels, Bobbie Kristina Brown – the only legacy of Whitney Houston who could have shimmered the world, Omar Sharif a heartthrob of the 60’s, Nicholas Winton who saved 650 Jewish children during the holocaust, and Dick Van Patten who played the father in the show 8 is enough.

Some of the most heartfelt deaths of this past year included B.B King (musician), Percy Slege (Musician), adored Leonard Nimoy (aka Mr. Spock in Star Trek), Zsa Zsa Gabor(actress), then there were those that the heavens set the stage. From Afghanistan, Africa, France, India, Australia, U.K, Japan and much more. Some of these deaths could have been prevented while others were caused by natural disasters. But whatever the case, and no matter what the circumstances, we cried many tears, we mourned, we feared, but most of all, we live daily to protect our family, friends, and country.

We will soon begin 2016 with many uncertainties, including where the future of one of the most powerful nations falls as it is placed into the hands of its political process. Thus we have plenty to think about and Mercury retrograde from 2015 going into 2016 will make sure that we think about how our communication and telecommunication is reliant upon the messages being delivered. At the same time Jupiter will also retrograde in Virgo.

Last fall Jupiter entered Virgo which brought or rather, is still bringing, opportunities to Virgos; but Virgo should not have wasted time. They should have been on the move: investing, looking, planning, organizing, networking, but most of all building as time is of an essence (read about it here). However, January 5, 2016, this magnificent planet of luck and fortune will be moving retrograde. There is an old saying, everything should be in moderation otherwise we may become ill. Meaning that if you love sugar and eat too much of it then there is a probability that you may become a diabetic and you may never have candy again. Therefore, when Jupiter begins to go retrograde in Virgo, all earth signs (Capricorn, Taurus and Virgo) will be going through introspection in regards to understanding how to improve themselves so that they are able to handle more critical issues in their lives when Jupiter goes direct. The worst thing one can do around this time is to get scared because life slows down as you know it. Therefore, Capricorn and Virgo will have a double slow down whammy in January and February of 2016. However, it may last a little longer for Virgos as Jupiter stays retrograde until May 2016.

On January 03, 2016 Mars will enter Scorpio which could be good or bad as it means that everything in life as we see it may be all black or white with nothing in between. But it is about challenges, making profound changes, keeping things a secret, and testing our limits. Within two weeks or so Venus will enter Capricorn, and therefore, while their luck of Career and life as they knew it slows down, perhaps their luck in love and all things such as art and beauty will be at their best. Thus Capricorn may still be a little dissimulated and Scorpios may go through some through some transformations.

As Valentine’s Day gets a little closer and Mercury retrograde starts to move direct, we will feel some relief. However, Venus also moves from worrisome Capricorn and into friendly Aquarius. The residue of Mercury still remains however, so watch out for old lovers returning. I wish I could say that instantly the phase will be over but the light at the end of the tunnel will not be bright until the end of February when we finally get some relief, not for long though. Brace yourself! And hold on tight as the spring brings us some bumps and bruises along the way, as it did spring of 2015.

As tough as it was for us in 2015, the eclipses were not as bad as they will be in 2016. In 2015 we had 4 eclipse, in 2016 we will have 5. A solar and lunar eclipse in the spring of 2016 and Lunar-Solar-Lunar eclipses in the fall of 2016. In spring 2015, our first solar eclipse magnified openings with the Pisces/Aries eclipse on March 20 (Read about it here), followed by the Libra/Aries eclipse on April 4 (read about it here).

No, I have not forgotten, as always it appears that super moons seem to follow the eclipse, or vice versa; we will have six super moons in 2016, just like 2015. Instead of all of the new moons being in the beginning of the year, they will be during the eclipses or little after.

Our first new super moon will cover the entire sun disk and form a total solar eclipse. This eclipse will focus on early born Pisces’ who will now open their eyes with the first total solar eclipse on March 08, 2016, and Libras who will now end their last eclipse for a while with the Libra/Aries eclipse on March 23, 2016. Fortunately for Libras, they will not be affected by eclipses now for quite some time, but that will not stop them from being affected by other aspects. These eclipses will magnify changes for both Pisces and Libra’s for 6 months, setting the stage for their own transformation and I would not be surprised if all those that have planets in in mutable or cardinal signs are affected by these eclipses. Even though the eclipses are transforming Pisces, Venus will grace them by entering their sign, at least until April 05, 2015, while Mars likes things to be fair in Sagittarius and wants the truth. Additionally, by now Saturn is going retrograde and perhaps Sagittarius’ can at least breathe for a little while, at least until August when Saturn goes direct again.

Finally, the merry-go-round begins to slow down and we are able to get off. However, while we are huffing and puffing while holding on to the railing, the universe looks down and says, “oh you need some rest? No problem! I will give you rest.” He puts his whistle in his mouth and blows and says, loudly ‘HEY! MERCURY! THESE HUMANS ARE TIRED!” Mercury smiles, and rubs his hands and says, “oh goody!” Even if our life is about to slow down this does not mean the cosmos slows down. Our second super new moon will be on April 07. One week later, on April 12-14, Mercury retrograde will take the second earth sign hostage. First, he took Capricorn, next is Taurus which means that not only are Taurus’ going to be affected, but all earth signs. I know Capricorn, its hell, I know. Oh, Virgo too. And let’s not forget Gemini, Pisces, and Sagittarius. Oh, why not by default, all those associated too. While our spring quickly begins to move to summer our heads are now between our legs and we are in a fetal position.As earth signs bask in the heat in May, the third super new moon will enter our atmosphere on May 06, 2016. Additionally, a few days later, the splendor of Jupiter moves direct in Virgo at the beginning of May once again. But, by association all earth signs will shine bright with kisses and splendor in the glory of prosperity and abundance until September 2016. By the time Mercury retrograde moves into the ghost period. Gemini’s will be whistling as Venus moves into their signs and summer love will bring their love life a little sparkle. However, when Mars had gone retrograde in Scorpio in April, Scorpios and its opposite Aries, people became, and will continue to become very irritable. This anger may disturb the harmony for many people, and possibly even what they do for a living. While Earth signs are confused, Air signs may love the summer romance, while Water and Fire signs may be creating some steam. I call this period simply, a mixed bag of tricks. May will, however, also bring our last Blue moon until 2019; be on the lookout as it is going to be marvelous.

Finally, in June and July the universe will give us the break we all need. In June, Venus will enter Cancer and it’s time for Cancerians to spread the love and turn the torch over to his brother Leo. Family and love is always where Leo’s enjoy love to be. Now everyone can finally enjoy their summer until we are glued to our television, or taking a nice vacation to Rio, for the summer Olympics. Or are we preparing for the next eclipse, or the next full moon? No matter what it is, take your favorite Ice tea, put a lounge chair in the water, put on your John Belushi glasses and float. This is exactly what Pisces, and those with Pisces in their charts, will do starting in June when Neptune goes retrograde again. Ok, you may even feel a bit tipsy.

As the summer gets hotter Mars will enter Sagittarius in early August which will affect all fire signs. Sagittarius’ love to have fun but this time they will get what they want, and if they don’t they won’t hang round for long. Just a few days after Mars enters Sagittarius, Venus enters Virgo (August 04, 2016) where Virgos are sexy, shining, and making everything so sweet. With Jupiter and Venus in Virgo I wonder how many followers beautiful Virgos will have; they will shine bright and have what they need. But if you asked me I think the Olympic committee should have called me before they set the date for the Olympics in Rio. As we are glued to the television on August 5, 2015, the Mercury retrograde ghost period will begin to start making things quite difficult for earth signs, but this time he is holding Virgos hostage. Hence, Virgos will not mind, they will shine quite pretty. As for the rest of us, well, all other earth signs and mutable signs may have a slightly tough time, especially Sagittarius. Saturn, a planet of difficult lessons, finally moves direct in the second week so tough lessons are already on their way for Sagittarius.

Moving into mid-August, transformation for Aquarius people now begins with their first partial lunar eclipse. These are questions that arose from the eclipse of August 7, 1998 combined with those from the eclipse on August 5, 2009. All those with Aquarius and Air signs in their charts, and fixed signs, will be affected by this eclipse and all unfinished business must be taken care of now. But hold on tight, really tight, we are not finished yet! As we end August, Mercury is still retrograding. The summer Olympics are now over, we just passed an Aquarius Eclipse on August 18, 2016, and we are now ready to hide under the blanket. It’s like the Eagles song Hotel California, “you can check out any time you like but you can never leave.”

There is a whole lot of shaken’ going on beginning on September 1, 2016; this is the second Virgo/Pisces eclipse, the first being in 2015. You are now being questioned about things from 2006. Yes Virgo, you will be affect by one more eclipse two weeks later, then you are done for 5 to 6 years. Yes, Venus has left your sign by September and you have now given the torch to Libra where it is at home. You will also hand over the torch of Jupiter to Libra as it’s their turn to hold on to it for a little while because too much of a good thing is never good. I hope you used your time well as Jupiter will not be back in your sign until 2025 in the western astrology but guess what… in the eastern astrology it’s about to enter your Jupiter in September so maybe, just maybe, you hit the lotto with a double whammy? Maybe.

If you sit for too long to have a drink of water that is way too long on September 16, 2015. We will have another eclipse, yes you got it, and that makes 5 eclipse in 2016. This one is in Pisces therefore it will be considered Pisces/Virgo eclipse. Yes, I promised you Virgo, it is the last eclipse and it is. Pisces however, you do have one more in 2017 and you are done as well. This is also asking about your 2006 lessons. A few days later Venus will enter Scorpio and some things will be hidden. Mars will also enter Capricorn and here we go again – worries galore. But at least for Capricorn, things will look much clearer when planet rebirth goes direct.

I am looking at, and writing all of this, and I am thinking we need a break in October. Do you feel it coming? By now we are in our ghost period of Mercury retrograde. There needs to be some deep concentration on the Presidency of United States and the people cannot do this when “stop-go” continues to happen. So now the slowdowns are gone for the year. I think. The eclipses are finished. Jupiter is in Libra and Saturn is still in Sagittarius until next year. Uranus will retro and direct in Aries for a while. Neptune will be in Pisces for a while, Pluto will remain in Capricorn for a while, and Chiron in Pisces. So what’s left?

Ahhh… Super moon! The first super moon will be on October 16, 2016, which will also be a full moon in Aries. As I always say, if you find full moons are bad, a super moon is worse. But something very phenomenal is also occurring just 5 days before the presidential election, which is the black moon on October 30, 2017. The black moon is also a new moon in Scorpio; it a sign of death, rebirth, and secrets; hmm… sounds very mysterious. No, I am not going to predict who will President.

By the beginning of November we now have a new ruler of the most powerful nation in the world. Mars is in friendly Aquarius yet perhaps friends may be a little demanding of us. Venus, meanwhile, is in worried Capricorn. Finally, our second and the brightest super moon occurs on November 14, 2016; which so happens to be in Taurus. Tsk tsk, a bit stubborn; and to think, in 10 more days we will have Thanksgiving. Are we going to feel as though we wonder where the year went, or are we going to remember the year as thank God it is over? Except for the uncertainty of the nation, November is not so bad. And I promise, the year ends just like it began.

December 1, 2016, Mercury will enter the ghost period with Mercury in Sagittarius causing intensity around Christmas (something look familiar?). Our third and final super moon occurs on December 14, 2016 (Full moon in Gemini). Ending the year with Venus in Fun Aquarius, Mars in Pisces, Jupiter in Libra, we can now exhale. Virgo’s no more eclipse as promised.

So what will we learn in 2016? We will learn more about money; how we spend and how we should spend. We will learn about value of relationships. We will learn about family. Most of all, we encounter important lessons of work in progress as 2017 through 2018 is a transformative period of spiritual transitions for many.

Please note these are general predictions not to be noted as western astrology predictions, if you are looking for a western astrologer that can look at your personal chart please see my link here or contact my recommended astrologer Leslie hale here.

Wishing you the best of 2016 and may your transformation be delightful and spiritual looking forwards to talking with you on Facebook and look for my blogs of 2017.

Namaste

Jan 31 2010

Stopping the Madness Step 3

Step # 3

Lets have a Funeral

The steps to release tension of obsessions can be very difficult thus causing us to fight the urge to change however, I hope to bring positivity in your life and bring healthy relationship changes for a spiritual awakenings.

It is very difficult to control something that has been out ones control for a while. Its can also be even more complex if it is the only way that perhaps you may have thought it worked in a relationship. Often obsession is an outlet for our own suppression to a certain dilemma your lives and this is the only outlet that you can use without destroying your self but we soon find out it not only destroying us but destroying the people around us as well.

The steps to resist obsession or rather control obsession can be very intricate. Especially, at time we may find our selves doing the very thing that we said to ourselves we would not do. Instead of punishing our selves we may want to try to say, “Wow I caught it” this means you are aware of it and not in defiance.

Now that you are not in denial and you began the step work because you either realized that the behavior patters are not working and that the relationships you carry are not sustainable or stable. You may have also discovered that you may have been not as happy as you wanted to be in that relationship and you fought for a change but you may have thought it was the other persons fault because either they did not understand you, left you, betrayed your etc.

Though that first two steps were the most difficult in breaking the patterns of obsessions which were..

To get fired
You cant fix it

And now…Step 3 : Have a funeral

Now we are going into more personal nature it can only be difficult if you allow it to be but does not have to be.

We are all very weak to memories, some good and some bad. We also notice when we go to our relative’s homes or visit friends and can’t seem to understand as to why they keep things from years back or start talking about things that happen years ago and often we mistake it as lectures. But what we seem to not understand is we do the same thing. But sometimes those things we hold on to are not always good. Especially when it comes to old relationships memories, especially material things such as letters, pictures, clothing, emails, things that our partner gave to us etc. Matter a fact it is such venom that even after the relationship is long over we look back at the memories of that other person and never give a 100% to our new partner because we are always in a comparison mode.

Often times we must let go of patterns of behavior that is really unhealthy for us. Sometimes we need to let go of people that are unhealthy as well. Sometimes all as failed and the only resort is some sort of a funeral service. Whether you are a Christian, Catholic, Jewish, Muslim, Hindu or any religion it does not matter. What matters is how honest are you to your self to want to do this? The only way to bring healthy things in our lives is to understand everything in life dies.

We are so fixated to attachment to something to someone that sometimes we hang on to relationships because we do not want to be alone or hang on to material things because perhaps we can have that time back. But we can not recover the past, we can not be afraid of being alone because we all have been alone when we were younger and we did just fine. The world that you may have lived in was a fantasy can not be realistic now. You have to be healthy to bring healthy relationships but to do this we have to inventory our selves. There are only 3 steps of this inventory. Ask you’re self:

What’s so good about holding on to things or feelings of the past?

What is the worst that could happen if I don’t hold on to it?
What am I so afraid of? Is it because I know I am not perfect or he is not perfect?

I always say that the value of relationship definition comes from our own expectations, and it has been researched and theorized that when we have high expectations we always fail, because we are not accepting of a situation, person or place the way it is rather we are living in a fantasy where we mold it into what we think it should be.

To be able to disconnect the cord of dysfunctional tendencies we must disconnect ourselves from the material world by symbolically doing things on a physical plane so that we affect it in our spiritual plane.

When you realize the person whom are with is not really on the spiritual or emotional plane as you are and you know deep in your heart that no matter what you try no matter how much you tell that person how you feel it seems like a dead end and the only thing you are holding on to is the “honeymoon state” then you know it is really not meant to be.

When you realize that the other person has betrayed your trust or even that the other person is with someone else and going back and forth can not continue. The more you let go the more the person goes back and forth.

This is because you are attached to them on a physical world and they continue to destroy your spiritual world. The only you can detach is disconnect on a physical plane.

So lets have a funeral.. and here is how it is done.

Gather every letter, physical items, photographs even gifts place them in a box and write a letter to the universe where you must release the energy of that person because you have to. It is affecting you spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially. I personally have done this many times in my life not only with the ones I have been a relationship with but even friends because even friends have a way of darning you.
Go in nature or even near a place where people will not mind you burning things or even your backyard if you have one. Remember they are just material things cost should not matter because it was real at that time and today is no longer real. Do not gas it but use camphor and light the camphor inside the box or boxes. Depending upon the number of items in the box it may take time. But be sure you place aluminum foil at the bottom of the box so that it does not damage the ground. During which time ask the universe to let the healing begin with you and the other party and help you forgive the other person for their actions and help you understand why this had to be let go. I have often done Astrotravel or even meditated during the burning process.
After the items are done burning and even those that did not burn. Bury them under a tree or near things that grow. Make sure you place flowers on the ground.
Make a few confessions to the universe such as I bury this which was once a part of my life now it has out grown me. Or Help me meet the person who is worthy of me. Or bring me solutions where my energy should go rather then focusing on others to make me happy or trying hard to help others.

Through these methods we allow the universe to pull away the negative energy from you and bring light where it is needed. According to Judy Hayes in her book Smart Love, she says “When you are letting of old beliefs and habits and began to replace them with positive ones, this is sure a sign that you are on the right road to recovery”(2001, pg 46). However the recovery begins with you. The longer you hold on to the past the more difficult it is to move into the future.

This type of behavior is not negative, rather positive that you are setting boundaries in your own life, because until you learn to love your self-you can not possibly love others.

Ask your self this.. do I want to continue to chase rainbows or do I want relationships that are the healing work of the universe? If it is the latter then ask your self can you go to step 4?

As you know prior to blogging, the first place this topics are announced is on blog talk radio, below is the link to the show. The show is only one hour long due to the fact of my own every day life exhausted me and many people were down because of the Full moon in Leo. I know full moon’s always exhaust me…

Listen to Maharani Rutan on Blog Talk Radio

Enjoy the show!

Namaste

Maharani

Jan 16 2010

Stopping the Madness

FINDING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS.

.. IT BEGINS WITH YOU

Letting go of obsessive behavior patterns in a relationship is not easy. It can be very painful transition on an emotional, spiritual and physical level. But for this to happen we must admit to our selves that we do have a problem. We must also examine why our relationships do not fulfill us in the aspect we want it to. To do this we have to understand why we may think we are obsessed. But it is apparent that you may think that otherwise you would not be here.

To able to recognize obsessionwe must clearly define the word obsession. This means to understand it on a psychological level and physiological level. This means that an obsessed person may have to read and re-read this to clearly understand where it is they stand in area of their relationship as well as to understanding obsessive behavior patterns. It is important to go over them again because we must continue to recognize.

As discussed in the previous chapter, many psychologist, theorist and researchers have interrelated obsession to indulgence. Webster Dictionary defines obsession as “a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling; broadly: compelling motivation” (on the web). Therefore, agreeing that obsession is a feeling and we know that feelings are never consistent but always flux depending upon the relationship as well as the environment. Additionally, it has been proven that obsession is control geared through oppression of some sort. This means that obsession has oppressive energies we often constrain our selves without knowing it. According to Iris Young’s article Five Faces of Oppression, “While these constrains include distributive patterns, they also involve matters which cannot be easily assimilated to logic of distribution or decision-making procedures” (2004, pg 43). In easier terms Young is stating that oppression is a trigger which allows for obsession to constraints us. It also causes us to have only one way of thinking and logic is used only to justify our actions of obsessive behavior.

Though it is not easy to break the patters of these cycles it can be done. According to Jody Hayes, author of Smart Love, “this means letting go of our over involvement in the lives of others. It means letting go of depending on others for approval and of the need to have others act certain ways” (2002, pg37). There has to be some sort of consideration to realize our patterns through behavior. This is to embed the process to think about what we did or what we were doing before we got so involved in the life of others but it also means that we must admit that we are obsessive.

But to understand and admit that we are obsessed, there has to be a certain pattern that we continue to follow, which is to understand why we are never fully happy with our relationships even when things are going great. That the life spans of our relationships are short lived. Or that we keep going back to our ex only do end up making promises we can not keep, thus brining the relationship back exactly where it was when things got chaotic. Additionally, to understand and accept which is the number one step; admitting that we do have a problem is simply to recognize it first.

Though some of these questions may be redundant from the previous chapter,.it is important to go over them again because we must continue to recognize.

What is obsessive behavior in a love relationship ?

(from the beginning from 1 to 6 mo)

1. Buying your partner expecting appreciation and more affection in return.
2. Wanting to spend every moment with them and getting mad when they have other plans
3. Getting jealous when they talk about the opposite sex or someone they find attractive.
4. Getting upset when they do not return your calls right away
5. Getting upset when they do not invite you to a certain event or gathering.
6. Getting upset when they do not want to introduce you to their friends or family.
7. Getting upset when they have priorities in their lives and you are not one of them.
8. Getting upset when they don’t want you to come over or want to come over.
9. Getting upset when they are not always being feeling oriented (touchy feely)
10. Getting upset when they do not want to be intimate as much as you.

The obsessive behavior patterns in a long term relationships are often the same as the one in a brand new relationship however, the matters of commitments may be the core issues which causes insecurities. And by this time the oppressor has already failed recognize their obsession which was outlined as red flags, sending triggers but they choose to ignore it. Additionally, the suppressed enabled the oppressor by allowing this type of behavior and misunderstanding it as love and having hope it will change in the future.

Here are some of the issues of a long term relationship obsessive behaviors

1. Wanting to know what your partner is doing every moment.
2. Wanting to help resolve partner emotional, financial and spiritual issues.
3. Getting too involved with family and discussing your partners’ faults and looking for help.
4. Revealing your partner’s secrets to other people.
5. Wanting the partner to revolve their lives around yours.
6. Following them calling them and stocking them when they are being aloof and when nothing is found then making up a scenario to find out their reaction.
7. Trying too hard to fit into the friends and family circle of your partner.
8. Pushing for marriage when the other person is not ready spiritually, financially or emotionally.
9. Find the passwords of their email account or checking their messages if it be, text or otherwise.
10. Going through their personal belongings.

The worst part of this kind of behavior is that it can be difficult for a suppress to handle and often times they end up leaving because by this time they have lost all respect for you and their self-esteem is shattered so there is no room for real reconciliation because it is ego driven. The ego driven relationship could have three final conclusions:

1. The relationship happens very quickly everything happens quickly where two people could end up moving in together in a short period of time or plan for an engagement within months or even start making future plans which are to take place in 1 to 2 or even 3 years. They began to share finances, family as well as their own closet demons which they have not shared with anyone. And within a short period of time the engagement is broken or the suppressed moves out.
2. The relationship is not honest after some time the suppressed looks for solace in other areas of their lives by deceiving the situation through separating themselves from their partner in a indirect way for example, being dishonest, cheating, and being inconsistent with their behavior as well as communication. Additionally, they start hiding things from the oppressed waiting for a conflict to occur so they have a way out, not wanting to hurt the other person.
3. The relationship go into time out where now the suppressor has more control because the oppressor has felt so guilty that they try everything to bring the suppressed back into their life by making false promises. And the suppressed continues to maintain control by controlling the communication as well as the relationship. For example when things are good the suppressed actually wants to be with oppressed but when the pressure gets too much and the patterns are repeating then they run away again and again, therefore, there is neither real closure nor no real opening.

The question remains how does one stop the patterns of obsessive behavior? It has already been stated that obsessive behavior patterns is like a drug, you can not stop in an instant unless you have great resistant power. If you had great resistant power then you would not be in this dilemma. And most of all you would not be reading this unless you knew that some of the red flags are present. Like any addictive program it begins with steps and step work is very important for our resistance to negative patterns of behavior and a utility to bring healthy patterns in ones life.

Step 1

GET FIRED

First thing is to admit and get laid off from your job of trying to be obsessed and find another job which is to live your life before this all began. This means you are not your partner’s psychologist, mother, father, brother, sister, banker, maid, handyman, financial advisor, nor psychic advisor. You need not to solve any of your partner’s problems. If they ask for help then you may start the question by saying “I think…. , but I respect your decision” whether you like it or not it is their life. In turn they will respect you more by not trying to resolve their issues. Some people have the wrong idea that if they don’t help their partners or potential partners that the other person will feel that their partner does not care. A healthy relationship does not require obsessive behaviors. Detachment from the issues means to identify, my problems, his or her problems and our problems”, it also means to take care of your own needs so that the partner does not always have to worry about what you are doing and start fixing themselves and their issues. To do this you must..
A. Give them their freedom to do what they want whether you agree or not so that you are not their mommy or daddy.
B. Give them time so that they can resolve their own issues so that you are not their psychologist.
C. Give them respect by not enabling them by fixing their financial issues so that you are not their banker.
D. Give them their own pride so that you are not policing their lives
E. Give them integrity by letting them make their own decision so that you are not a nag,
F. Give them understanding so that you are not going around trying to help them make mends with their own conflicts with their friends, family or other relationships in their life so that you are not their mediator.
G. Give them respect whether they are correct or incorrect so that you give them honor.

Whether you choose to get fired or you quit it does not matter how you do it, what matter is that you do it, but remember you can not graduate or learn without doing your lessons and have the capacity to go to the next step which is to resolve issues outside of your occupation. So don’t go and find a job as a waitress when you can’t even pick up after you’re self. Most of all you can’t be a surgeon when you cant stand blood. Lastly, ask your self can I go to step 2? Have I learned or do I need to start all over again? But, most of all this worth it- Do I love my self enough to let the universe help me to get to step 2?

Ability to go to step 2 means that you are inviting ONLY healthy relationship that you are powerless over others, can you admit that? When you do then you are human and deserve respect and healing from the universe.

This topic was aired live on BlogTalk Radio on January 15, 2010 at 9pm EST. The archived clip link is below..

Listen to Maharani Rutan on Blog Talk Radio

I hope you enjoy and decide to apply it to your life …

Namaste

Maharani