Archive for January 10th, 2010
January 10th, 2010 Posted 2:41 pm
Annular Solar Eclipse
New Moon Capricorn
On January 15, 2010 at approximately 2:07 am EST (11:07 pm PST on January 14, 2010) we will have annular Solar Eclipse of the sun. It will also embark a new moon in Capricorn. This is remarkable. The eclipse is in the 26th degree of Capricorn, so people with Capricorn as well as fixed signs (Aquarius, Aries, Leo and Scorpios) including those that have Capricorn in their chart will be featured in their birth charts are more likely to be affected. Under this eclipse, people will want to turn their feelings into physical experiences. Before anything else there has to be action or some form of instant physical gratification.
Solar energy is external, paternal, protective, and active – and reflected and expressed from within our life force. This eclipse is particularly goal and purpose oriented – and our ideals and resolve can be enhanced and intensified. We begin to deeply consider our contributions in the world, and the full expression of our humanity. This 6-month period is a time to focus on community ties, networking, educating and nurturing closeness to siblings and friends. This particular Eclipse chart places a huge planetary emphasis in one area of the Zodiac. Gemini and Cancer are highly emphasized, and we need to guard against out-of-control patriotism, misunderstandings and over-sensitivity about boundaries. Tiny details can over-run long-term goals.
Few days prior to the New Moon, known as the DARK MOON, energies are at their lowest ebb, in preparation for the new cycle to begin. Each New Moon signifies the opportunity to begin a new cycle in your life. Depending on the elemental quality of the sign in which the New Moon falls, energies on variable levels are heightened, be they spiritual, physical, mental or emotional. The modality of the sign determines whether the emphasis is on consecutiveness, power or adaptability.
This solar eclipse will bring out portions of healing, sensitivity, emotions, expressed needs, subconscious and reserve or quite side of you.
The moon in Capricorn the vibration of Saturn is emphasized. It is time for material ambition and an awareness of work and duty. In the search for status the financial security, people might become insensitive even unsympathetically cruel, but the selfish necessity rather then animosity.
The Saturn influences of Capricorn cause pessimism or negativity to creep in. Generally, while the Moon is in Capricorn energy is sluggish. It is time for diligently applying your self to tasks while living solely in the present.
The Earthy Capricorn Moon sets us straight up the mountainside toward our highest goals.
The Earthy New Moon brings a time of brilliance and blossoming. It is a period of personal fulfillment, but also a time to search for the deeper meaning in what you’ve created. How can you integrate your vision into the world for the greater good of all? The New Moon signals a time of emergence. There is an impulse to take action and begin something new, be it a small change in the way you approach your daily routine or a whole new path on your journey through life. The energy is right for making spontaneous moves and following your instincts. This is the time to act from your heart and trust the process – take a risk, live in the moment, dance to your own drummer. The New Moon blesses new beginnings, and invites you to take a chance! What do you want to create in your life? What vision do you wish to manifest? The new begins a new cycle. It is the seed of the beginning lunar cycle. The chart of the New Moon is the key to influences in the coming lunar month.
The New Moon is an asking (invocative) time, and a time to formulate what our needs are according to the opportunities available through this moon in Capricorn. The moon urges you to recognize and honor the significance of the “other” – other people, other ideas, and other values. Relationships are of great importance at this time, and you feel a need to share, to merge, to partner, whether romantically or through other channels. You are called upon now to work toward achieving balance – balance of your inner nature and outer personality, balance of your need to take with your ability to give, balance of your ultimate ideals with what is possible in the world Capricorn Moon sets us straight up the mountainside toward our highest goals. Dig in those hooves and get climbing! Reputation, success, go,go,go….. You can tackle anything. Love seriously, too. This is the time to Harvest, Pray and be Thankful, and to work on fertility and prosperity. You have a highly subjective personality. You strive to accomplish and fulfill your own personal plans and ideals. You tend to react impulsively and emotionally.
You seek propriety and dignity in all things – thus you may be one who does not readily express emotion. You take emotional situations seriously, weighing the outcome of your words and actions. You prefer to be with people who are disciplined and correct. You are ambitious, practical and a good leader. You nurture others by acknowledging their achievements and encouraging them to persevere. Your look to your mother for discipline and order, and may see her as a person of high status.
Because the moon in Capricorn is Ambitious, Serious, Determined, Practical, and Capricious, and its effects are heightened as a Solar eclipse, you may choose to recite a mantra every morning until the next moon cycle. Remember that with all applications of psalms and mantras achieving the desired result is depended upon the quality of intention, and when it comes to finding a satisfying relationships and success, it is of the greatest importance to begin with a clear understanding of what your goal should be. The mantras can be hard to pronounce for many but it is a powerful source of energy the mantra for Capricorn moon is:
Om Sri Shanaishwarya Namaha
(OM Sri Shan aish shwarya Namaha)
Solar Eclipse is:
“ Om Eim Saraswatiyei Swaha”
( Om I’M Sah-Rah-Swah-Tee-Yei Swah- Ha)
Remember the 12 aspirations. The intention of this mantra is to guard and protect and fulfill needs. It is my suggestion that you purchase a green candle and recite psalm 117 if you find the mantras too difficult. Make sure you take the time to write down 10 aspirations and recite them every day and word them to say I can have…
Please note that these are general tendencies of the Lunar Eclipse and not to be taken as a direct negative or positives. Always remember for the most accurate forecast of how the lunar eclipse will affect you or even to get a glimpse of 2010. I would suggest you consult with Lee Stillwaters who can assist you in better understanding your own specific timing and potential changes in 2010. Simply click on his picture and it will take you right to his site.
On January 15, 2010, starting at 8am EST I will be doing 6 months in-depth self reading in preparation which help you transit through the next 6 months of the Solar Eclipse energy. Many of you have already have had such a reading and some of you it may be new. These readings are quite intense therefore, I recommend that you do nothing with a relationship and let it be status quo if you can help it.
Go into a hermit mode and breathe. Get ready for the lunar and solar eclipse by practicing meditation or learn go to yoga classes or find some buy a tape of manifestation visualization what ever it takes for you to go into your own spiritual world and RELAX. Lastly, remember to breathe this week and next and make sure you take a spiritual bath prior to setting up a time to talk to me if you do not have the recipe you may email me because I can not post it here it is on request basis only.
Please take good care of your self this week and most of next week and I look forward to talking to On January 15, 2010 on Blog Talk Radio.
January 10th, 2010 Posted 8:56 am
Obsession We Are Creatures of Habit
Obsession is a very powerful; it emphasizes how we behave towards people, places and things. This type action or reaction can destroy not only our selves, our partners, families but also society.
Many psychologist, theorist and researchers have interrelated obsession to indulgence. Webster Dictionary defines obsession as “a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling; broadly: compelling motivation”(on the web). Therefore, agreeing that obsession is a feeling and we know that feelings are never consistent but always flux depending upon the relationship as well as the environment.
Obsession can also be core root of OCD, hoarding, depression, stocking, murder and even suicide. Sometimes the obsession become so intense that a person would go into manic episodes such as killing sprees and often time they become obsessed with control. Often time obsession occurs because of some sort of an oppression we feel within our selves which enables us to see things as they are and quite often when third parties gets involved they see things unlike those that are obsessed.
Since obsession is control geared, it has oppressive energies we often constrain our selves without knowing it. According to Iris Young’s article Five Faces of Oppression, “While these constrains include distributive patterns, they also involve matters which cannot be easily assimilated to logic of distribution or decision-making procedures” (2004, pg 43). In easier terms Young is stating that oppression is a trigger which allows for obsession to constraints us. It also causes us to have only one way of thinking and logic is used only to justify our actions of obsessive behavior.
In social prospective obsession lead to many incidents which originated between two parties which created a spiral of events that affect many societies and social groups. For example, some of you may not agree with my example but please understand I am only going by what I have read. The chain of evidence that has been passed through the criminal justice system may have been contradictory; some of it may have been facts some may have been altered but only OJ and Nicole knew the truth.
The O.J. Simpson Trial, made headlines in world wide news. Some called it a hate murder, some called it stocker and others called it a crime of passion. The crime of passion it was triggered by obsession. Many believe that O.J was so obsessed with his wife so much so that that he did not want anyone around his wife, ie friends, family, associates etc. with this wife. His record shows history of domestic violence with this wife over jealousy and control, and the more she resisted the more volatile the relationship.
The transcripts of his criminal records showed incidents of numerous threatening calls while they were divorced regarding her friendship with other men. The more she tried to resist him –the more intense his obsessive and controlling behavior became where he spiraled out of control. There were records of him sharing intimate conversations with his friends about Nicole’s past life and other issues which were very personal to her. He would make public how many he was dating just to prove to her that she was not that special
The power that was so crucial to OJ was to be a provider; to be the only man in her life played a crucial role to his ego. The more she resisted his controlling behavior the more enraged he became because she now had control of her life and she was moving on. What OJ did not realize is the damage that he had already done to the relationship through speaking about her in public, spreading rumors which she once thought were intimate in nature. What ever she did or did not do now became an obsession to his passion. The obsession now became the poison slowly killed him and if he was dying inside – then he wanted to blame or take care of the problem so that he would not feel sick any longer.
During the course of poison he drove by her home, he drove by the gym she worked out at; he drove by her parent’s house when she was not home. He followed her on dates and embarrassed her so that no one would see her. He would go to every night club, clothing store, grocery store and every where she went to the point that she had to place a restraining order out on him because every where she went he made a scene.
Though, Nicole Simpson never stopped loving O.J but she lost respect, which was to her more detrimental then love it self. The more obsessed he became the more fearful she was the more reports were filed against him. And when O.J could not follow her anymore, call her any more he found another out let for his suppression which was alcohol, drugs and women. Each and every one of them he could control or get lost in for a moment in time.
This example was given to show how control and obsession are intertwined. Because of this obsession it affected the entire society of L.A where the white community felt that justice was not done because of celebrity status and because of everything that happened with the Rodney King’s Trial and it was the way the justice system was trying to balance out the racial disparities. Not only that the children were divided but families were divided additionally societies were divided.
Similar things happen in love relationship when we are so intertwined with the other person that it directly affects our own environment or that we let the other person control our lives. Hence what ever they do directly affects the way we live our lives then we are opening doors to obsession. By the time obsession has streamed its way through the veins of our relationship we have already pushed away all the friends you have all the families and now you are totally intertwined in the other persons life so that we are living the other persons life and no longer ours.
Like a drug, some psychologist calls obsession as toxic and intoxicating painful as alter states in a relationship. According to Jody Hayes in her book Smart Love, “obsessive relationship to a high produced by drug” At first it may seem odd to consider the parallels between characteristic of more obvious forms of addiction such as alcoholism or cocaine addiction, add less obvious addictive characteristics can appear in personal relationships. It seems that some of us that were or are in an obsessive relationship it seems very exciting a state of satisfaction mixed with the lows which are not really in a healthy relationship. There are the high highs’ and there are no Low lows”. In an obsessive relationship we get hooked and this excitement brings the wrong impression of love. In these kinds of relationship we are so filled with insecurities and what the other person would do next is when we confuse love with obsession.
Often time’s obsessive relationships become passion very quickly and it becomes a primary focus of our lives. Because the physical intimacy is the primary and emotional intimacy is secondary and becomes premature like ourselves almost like a child in a candy isle. Many intelligent men and women get so intertwined in obsessive relationship that are not good for them that some people break loose very quickly when they see destructive behaviors which portray it self through control and domination and others caught stuck and get paralyzed so that they can not see the obvious. This kind of behavior continues from one relationship to the other and the relationship eventually fall apart. Some people are not in denial of their continual toxic cycle but they continue to go down this path because they do not know any other kind of behavior.
Even talking about obsessive behavior becomes an obsession so much according to Young, “they may feel they have used up their friends and can no longer turn to them”(2004, pg 93) Either way people feel isolated which only adds more paralyses and despair and oftentimes they go to psychics to psychics, friends to friends and psychologist to psychologist because they don’t like hearing what they hear. After a fortune is spent on false faith and chasing rainbows they come to realize they are now broke, going through depression and have no one left.
Surely, talking about an ex or someone that is in your life during the first month or two is normal because we may miss them or thinking about them but obsessing over them whereas the entire topic of conversation becomes about your ex or the current is not only abnormal but compulsive behavior. And frankly no one wants to hear a recording. Now instead of a person being in obsessive relationships where they are the oppressor now they become the oppressed. J. Harvey, states in Civilized Oppression,” The oppressed are treated with disrespect, moral rights are denied or blocked, their lives are deprived of proper fulfillment and they experience serious of frustrations and humiliation beyond all normal bound”(1999, pg37). These feelings not only come from our friends, family it can even extend out to our co-workers, bosses and even society, especially whom ever you talked to because other people have lives too. Obsessive compulsive behaviors can lead to your friends having disrespect for you and they laugh behind your back because you are obsessed and they may even humiliate you in public to show you that you have blinders on.
The obsessive relationships can cause some people to go into financial deprivation so bad that they may become homeless or jobless because they have spent all their money smoozing the relationship when it began by buying the person. And the rest of the money is used up by suppressing their desires by wasting it on drugs, alcohol, other women and even psychics. After sometime the friends don’t want to listen to what a the oppressed have to say so the don’t go out, the oppressed are too embarrassed to face anyone including strangers in fear that they would be spoken of badly. Though the oppressed know it is wrong to behave such in a way that it sounds like a wiener or someone that is obsessed, they continue the compulsive behavior and end up in a massive depression or even committing suicide and by that time no one really cares because they gave up on them. The last memories that your friends would have of you is a person with obsessive, compulsive and obsessive disorder.
How can you see obsessive compulsive behavior? I had already mentioned that obsession is a form of oppression and it is a drug, therefore it must be treated like a addiction and one must go through the twelve steps with complete due diligence.
Since the twelve steps are so very intense and complicate change for those that are used to a certain behavior, it is my goal to discuss what is obsessive behaviors in a relationship almost like warning flags then step by step, I will discuss resolutions that will help you not to be in a obsessive behavior patterns or help you through breaking away the chaos in your life
What is obsessive behavior in a love relationship (the beginning 1to 6 mo or new)
- Buying your partner expecting appreciation and more affection in return.
- Wanting to spend every moment with them and getting mad when they have other plans
- Getting jealous when they talk about the opposite sex or someone they find attractive.
- Getting upset when they do not return your calls right away
- Getting upset when they do not invite you to a certain event or gathering.
- Getting upset when they do not want to introduce you to their friends or family.
- Getting upset when they have priorities in their lives and you are not one of them.
- Getting upset when they don’t want you to come over or want to come over.
- Getting upset when they are not always being feeling oriented (touchy feely)
- Getting upset when they do not want to be intimate as much as you.
The obsessive behavior patterns in a long term relationships are often the same as the one in a brand new relationship however, the matters of commitments may be the core issues and insecurities. Because by this time the oppressor has already failed at least 3 or 4 things that send a trigger but they choose to ignore it, and the receiver may choose to ignore it too because they accepting the situation hoping that it will change or it has already ended. Here are some of the issues of a long term relationship obsessive behaviors
- Wanting to know what your partner is doing every moment.
- Wanting to help resolve partner emotional, financial and spiritual issues.
- Getting too involved with family and discussing your partners’ faults and looking for help.
- Revealing your partner’s secrets to other people.
- Wanting the partner to revolve their lives around yours.
- Following them calling them and stocking them when they are being aloof and when nothing is found then making up a scenario to find out their reaction.
- Trying too hard to fit into the friends and family circle of your partner.
- Pushing for marriage when the other person is not ready spiritually, financially or emotionally.
- Find the passwords of their email account or checking their messages if it be, text or otherwise.
- Going through their personal belongings.
I will discuss in the later chapters how to change these tendency step by step and I hope when the process is done that you go through your check list and are able to see these patterns and bring healthier patterns to attract love and keep love.
This topic was discussed to its depth on my January 08, 2010 show on blog talk radio, if you wish to listen the link is below.